FrsDia

wife | mom of 🧒🏼👦🏼👶🏼 | 🇭🇺Transylvanian🇹🇩| passing the time during breastfeeding | Saved by the grace of the loving Father |

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@BrettaBaggett love McArthur but I thing he got the order of things wrong. When men become weak, women take over...

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@wil_da_beast630 well if she was speaking about twilight, thats exactly what happened. There isn't a single sex scene until book #4. the guy though keeps asking "what are you thinking?"

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@wil_da_beast630 Why is it is hard to believe that a woman can read a romance novel, enjoy it, and then go and be perfectly content with Tim the constructor?
Should we also assume that men are discontent with their lot in life because they watch (insert popular TV series) or follow famous atlete

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The Duke's Perfect Wife
Jennifer Ashley
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@41KOOR "Husbands live with your wife in an understanding way."
How do you imagine understanding comes about?

I get the not explaining when there's urgency or a safety issue, but withholding communication just for the sake of it is not how trust is established, and speaks of ego.

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Americans would have their mind blown if they learned that there are parts of the world where this is exactly what happens every time a woman gives birth. And not even just one year but doule of triple that time.

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to switch gears on discourse I don’t think expecting all companies to cover 1 year of maternity leave is realistic but I also think 6 weeks is a pathetic amount. 3 months minimum is a decent start.

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@MarkSmi70354099 And I'm sure many who was born into slavery would say that they were happy also.

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@MattWalshBlog Literally it's all everyone talks about here

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@TiffaniMarie483 we have a visual clock, set it up for 1 h at 7pm, you finish your evening chores, the remining of the time you can watch cartoons. They are 6, 4 and 2. It took some time until they understood, but the older ones now know how it works, and the little one just does whatever they do

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@dalepartridge @sgruber91 Interesting that they always attack the most effective Christian women like Kristan and Allie Beth. Both were instrumental for me to change my mind on certain things and gave me good arguments to use with other people.
What have you ever done?

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It's interesting that the theo bros come out and attack the most effective Christian women, like Kristin and Allie Beth. Both were instrumental for me to change my mind on certain things, and gave me good arguments to use with other people.

[Dale Partridge @dalepartridge]

@sgruber91 Women cannot lead because most women cannot think.

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@AntiCommieBecca @ArtemisConsort Inbreeding offsets any advantage of a father linving in the home. Also father quality matters.

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@LoisMcLatch there is a secret third way

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I find it hilarious that the guys who are most against feminism work the hardest for creating many many more feminists.

[Rivelino @alpharivelino]

THEORY

If a man is a good husband and father, he should be allowed to have one (1) mistress, or at least a respectful and discreet “turn a blind eye” understanding from his wife

An occasional indiscretion shouldn’t blow up a healthy family. That’s hateful feminist ideology

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@denisyurchak It's regulation and taxes that kill the small businesses. My brotherin law is a very good carpenter, but instead of working for himself, he works for a company because it just isn't worth it.

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i cannot be an effective leader unless you give me carte blanch to do anything I want without consequences, or some such shit....

[Rob and Avis Ramble @rob_avis_ramble]

This is a great example of how wives scream they want men to lead, don’t want to control their husbands, etc., but don’t actually believe it or live it.

The reality is they truly do want men to lead so they can relax, but only within the boundaries they as wives set - which means the wife ultimately places herself in the leadership seat and will implement consequences (divorce) if the husband exceeds the boundaries she set.

What these wives fail to realize is they are never truly able to achieve the level of relaxation they seek and God intended for them because they believe they have to police the “leadership” of their husband.

There is a lesson they could learn from Avis on this. Avis will tell them (and has in various posts and podcasts already) that she does not attempt to police me or put boundaries on me.

If I want to watch porn, have sex with another chick, etc. - whatever awful thing wives can imagine a husband doing to justify divorce - in our marriage Avis says she isn’t going anywhere and won’t even ponder pulling the divorce lever for a second.

That doesn’t mean she will like my behavior if I do something hurtful to her, and it doesn’t mean I don’t understand that partaking in any of those behaviors could be psychologically damaging to our marriage, harming genuine desire, etc.

While such an idea might make some wives recoil at giving up all control like that, what Avis understands that they don’t is if she wants real honest relaxation as a wife and real honest leadership out of me as her husband, she can’t assume any part of the leadership role or place boundaries on me that if crossed will result in divorce.

She also understands ultimately there is nothing wives can do to control their husbands beyond the control they themselves are already willing to subject themselves to - and any attempt to control them ultimately upsets the super important polarity good marriages thrive on.

By genuinely placing her full trust in God to deal with me if I move beyond the boundaries God has defined for me, she is able to achieve a genuine place of relaxation and simply enjoy her life and our marriage.

On my end, without her hanging divorce over my head as a possible outcome dependent on my behavior, I’m able to lead and care for her out of genuine desire versus at gunpoint, which is the only way real love occurs.

Real love is having the choice not to love - it’s not an obligation to pretend to show love no matter if it’s there or not.

The result is everything that happens in our marriage is truly genuine, and the fruit of that is we are here 34 years together and counting, just as happy as can be.

A lot of you wives are with great men but are ultimately screwing yourselves out of the life you truly desire by holding onto control while refusing to actually completely hand over the leadership role. -R

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@GreatLakesWife_ A lot of what they say would be good advice, but the reason it rubs people the wrong way is because most of the time there is self-preaise and pride under the surface, and they just cannot conceal it very well.

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@cessonmute These are two different kind of men. Usually the one who wants to be a father will also care for the mother very well.

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@ICallahan1966 @dadmatters_uk @MeghanEMurphy And Africa. Only two tiny corners of the earth, not at all reprezentative.

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@BraveFathers @wil_da_beast630 Telling on yourself much?