We hear a lot about generational wealth (assets, money, etc)
But in the black community it ain’t enough talk about breaking generational curses. you can leave your kids a house... and still pass down trauma. You can leave them money... and still pass down a poverty mindset.
You can leave them a business...and still pass down anger, dysfunction,broken relationships, toxicity, debt, financial ILLiteracy, victim mentality, poor health habits, lack of emotional control, addiction, fatherlessness, scarcity, unhealed pain disguised as strength.
Let’s make sure we also put emphasis on not just what to pass down, but also what to put an end to.
The middle school coach is dreaming about being on the high school staff
The freshman coach is dreaming about being on the varsity bench.
The varsity assistants are dreaming about being the varsity head coach.
The varsity head coach is dreaming about being on a college staff.
The college assistants are dreaming about being the college head coach.
Moral of the story. The job you’re discontent with is someone else’s dream.
The best advice I ever received: “Be where your feet are.”
It completely changed my mentality. Don’t waste moments. Don’t wish away your process. Don’t take the job you do have for granted.
Keep grinding, Coach!
15 things to do with your father while he is still alive. I lost mine 8 years ago.
1. Ask him what he was like at your age because once he was the same age you are right now & Watch his face light up as he tells you stories from when he was younger
2. Record his laugh when he tells one of his signature jokes. Someday you will replay the video over and over just to hear it again
3. Ask him about the proudest moment of his life. (Odds are he will say when you were born)
4. Ask him his favourite songs
Listen to them together, laugh, sing and be happy. These will become your most cherished memories in years to come
5. Take a picture of him doing something he loves. Watching tv, gardening, playing the guitar, anything. When you look back these will be the pictures that will make you smile the most
6. Tell him you love him even if it's something you don't normally do.
7. Tell him you are proud to be his son/daughter This will mean more to him than you realise (even if he doesn't show it)
8. Listen to music from his youth and watch him turn from dad into a young man again
9. Take a short video of him talking about something random sacred Someday even the ordinary things he said become
10. Bring up something you are thankful for from years ago
11. Ask him what it was like for him growing up
12. Call him for no reason
Don't take being able to do this for granted.
Someday you would give anything to hear his voice again.
13. Take a picture of just the 2 of you together
14. Ask him to show you an old photo of him because seeing him young will remind you that he wasn't always Dad
15. Tell him something you are struggling with, no matter what age you are Because even when your grown it means the world to him to feel like he can still help
Let him give you advice, even if you don't need it because one day you will give anything to hear his voice guiding you again