Gamblers Wife

Previously: Documenting the moods of a gambler & the suffering of the accidental enabler. *he stopped in 2020, but slips now and then

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

@SkyBet My partner had a bipolar episode yesterday and gambled all our rent money. I wondered if there is anything I can do to prevent this happening again? I’ve tried to ask him to sign up to @gamstopuk1 but he’s currently in a deep depression and communication is really tough.

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

#MenToo #MeToo I experienced the things Amber Heard did: Finding every opportunity to record & share untrue/edited situations that could discredit the “victim”. All the while, the victim sits quietly, not wanting to draw attention to the lies, feeling paranoid/alone #JohnnyDepp

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

Payday happened: He’s either in a bad mood because he’s gambled… or because he hasn’t.

Everything I do, or don’t do is wrong.

I’m not allowed to speak, or leave, but staying is wrong 🤷🏼‍♀️

What is right?

#addictionrecovery #gambling #addiction #GambleAware #BeGambleAware

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

Anyone else feel completely jealous watching the last scene of amazing @rickygervais ‘s #AfterLife season 3? I’d just found out my man had directed his interest to another woman for the last few months…hadn’t confronted him yet & he was so confused as to why I was sobbing!🤦🏼‍♀️😂

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

So..life after gambling isn’t all great. He gave a betting tip to “friends” who know he quit & told he was not wanting to base friendships around it. The horse came in & they all won big. The abuse has started again 😔 How do I get him the help he needs to realise he won overall?

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

@jeff_ncc You��re a team; credit to you both, I’m sure 😉 Congratulations

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

5 months since he beat his addiction and still going strong with savings in the bank. He’s even talking about paying off some of my debt which was the result of keeping him for the last few years

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

Month 2 of no gambling: Life is good. I feel loved. My shoulders are not up where my ears are. I’ve had moments of relaxation. My man is happier than ever and this makes me happy 👏🏽💪🏽 #Gambling #GamblingWrecksLives #addiction #Recovery

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

@Alexraiderwasp He has use of a credit card with which he cannot gamble or draw cash. It’s important to have some freedom. Any other helpful suggestions welcome. He can’t register with GamStop apparently as it might affect information access for part of his work in the industry.

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

Thanks for your advice re tough love. For the first time, and without my prompt, he got paid & transferred all his salary into my account so he can’t gamble it. He already seems happier knowing he’s going to feel good about himself this month. #Proud #Hopeful #GamblingWrecksLives

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

It’s so hard to be tough on him as he switches to guilt mode... “If I end up killing myself, it will be because you’re not supporting me when I already feel bad”
How do I convince him to get help? His job is in the industry and he needs access to the sites for work-apparently!

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

Another one of those days where you arrive home from work to the news that all his salary has been lost to uncontrollable gambling and the rest of the night is hell #gambling #NoLife @bet365 are the winners again... T-4 hours until I start work again and no possibility of sleep

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

Does anyone understand how difficult it is to ask for help when you’re barely allowed to speak to friends or what repercussions are if you leave the house during a one sided “conflict”? I’m being shouted at for 🤷🏼‍♀️, but know it will be worse if I try to leave or call anyone 😔💔

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

How do you stop a man interrogating you for 12 hours a day? ...when you try everything to be agreeable and try to say what you think needs to be said so there can’t be a reason for an arguement... how do I get away from here without making it worse 😥
https://t.co/pAxmOgAo5k

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

#DomesticAbuse in #coronavirus lockdown is the worst yet. The companies with millions who owe me money haven’t paid me anything, I’m self employed and getting no government help. He had to pay some of our bills. I’m reminded of this every moment of every day and I can’t leave 🙉

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

Well, the first 24 hours of compulsory #lockdownuk and I’ve only taken about 8 hours of verbal abuse with nowhere to escape to... just another 6 or so weeks to get through. Watching @SU2C episodes to remind me how great my life is compared to others #coronavirus #DomesticViolence

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

Who would think you could feel so alone... until you’re stuck in the house with your closest who is stressing out and taking everything out on you 💔

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

He drank to excess last night and lost all his salary again 2 days after getting paid. How can someone who works in the gambling industry self-exclude but still access bookmaker information for their job? @GamStop @GamCare @GamRegGB @GambleWithLives

[This Morning @thismorning]

There's more advice and support about dealing with a gambling addiction on our helplines page #ThisMorning @DearDeidre https://t.co/u0DF8raBJt

[Gamblers Wife @GamblersWifey]

@MoneySavingExp My partner has over £80k in gambling debts on credit cards. After monthly payments, he has nothing to live on and I’m now building debt to keep us houses and fed. Any advice?