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We used to tell children: “Don’t talk to strangers.”
Now we pay strangers to look after them.
DBS checks tell us who someone was.
They don’t tell us who they are or who they might become.
Safeguarding isn’t a tick box, it’s ongoing
Systems reduce risk.
Presence still matters
I’m starting to sense that Neville is looking for someone to criticise but can’t fully do it to Carrick. And I get Ole, had a shocker after he was given a contract, but you can’t punish Carrick, because Ole did poorly after a good season.
🚨🗣️ Gary Neville believes Michael Carrick should hand over the Manchester United head coach role at the end of the season:
"Manchester United have acted emotionally a number of times in the last 12 years. I honestly could not be happier with the last two weeks. The familiarity in what I’m watching feels like I’m watching my team play again properly.
They played properly, with intensity. I think it’s right that Carrick keeps the job until the end of the season and then hands the baton over to a Tuchel or an Ancelotti, someone of that world-class ilk."
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I get the frustration with advice that ignores real constraints.
But “childless vs parent” isn’t the right line.
Jesus and Paul weren’t parents or self-optimising, yet their counsel still shapes family life.
Experience helps apply wisdom it doesn’t define it.
I stopped taking advice from childless people.
Fitness. Productivity. Life advice. All of it.
And here's why:
It's not that they're wrong. It's that they're playing a completely different game.
Taking life advice from someone without kids is like getting marriage tips from a guy who's "really good at first dates."
Cool, bro. But you've never had to initiate the tough conversation and own your mistake just to keep the peace.
We're not in the same sport.
We've all seen some 25-year-old fitness influencer with non-negotiable 5am routine.
Wake up. Meditate. Journal. Cold plunge. 45-minute lift.
Sounds beautiful. You know what woke ME up at 5am last Tuesday?
A 3-year-old standing 3 inches from my face whispering, "Daddy, I frowed up."
There's no cold plunge for that. Just reality.
These people have optimized their lives around ONE variable: themselves.
I'm optimizing for:
→ A marriage that still thriving after 10 years
→ Kids who actually want to be around me
→ A career that provides for my family
→ A body that lets me keep up with all of it
That's a completely different goal and it requires a different formula.
Real discipline isn't waking up at 5am when your apartment is silent and your only responsibility is a houseplant.
It's a 10pm workout after the kids went to bed because your morning blew up showing up for your family when they needed you.
That's the game I'm playing.
Childless advice isn't just impractical. It's unrelatable.
Their goal: optimize for SELF.
My goal: optimize for FAMILY.
It's like a vegan telling me how to grill a steak.
You might technically know the steps. But I don't trust you with the tongs.
The best advice I've ever gotten came from parents in the trenches.
They don't talk about "optimizing morning routines."
They talk about:
• 20 push-ups while your kid eats breakfast
• Walking with your wife after dinner because it's the only time you'll get together
• Meal prepping Sunday because Tuesday night is a warzone
THAT'S advice that actually works.
So no, I'm not taking health advice from someone whose biggest inconvenience is their supplement stack being shipped late.
I want the guy who's been elbow-deep in a diaper blowout and STILL hitting their goals.
That's the guy who I'm listening to.
Find your people. Take their advice. Ignore the rest.
@UtdForever7 It wasn’t a waste of time. Amorim helped tidy up loose ends, and sometimes progress looks like learning, not instant results. We got rid of players that lacked discipline and poor attitude, players were exposed to a different style of playing, and intensity. There’s a lot of good
@ManUtd_Optimist ‘Right’ based on what bro? Regardless of whether you agree with his philosophy, you can’t sake a manager 13 months, there’s a lot that I didn’t like about Amorim, but if this is RIGHT, you need to have the same energy when the next manager comes in with 13 months to prove himself
Call it a farmers league if you want no striker scores 50+ goals like Viktor Gyökeres and then goes 7 Premier League games without a single shot on target. That doesn’t just happen.