When you lack self insight, and the men around you lack a spine, you will project all your own flaws onto them, then punish them as if they were theirs. Liberal women, hell most women, have been pandered to & coddled for so long, that they think they're goddesses without flaws.
2. Supports You Financially & Psychologically
Real queens donât just look goodâthey back you up when life hits hard.
Sheâs your rock, your therapist, your partner in the grind. If she drains your resources or emotional energy without giving back, swipe left.
Your anxiety didnât start in adulthood.
It started when you became "The Good One."
People-pleasing is harmful.
It rewires your brain and fractures your sense of self.
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If you think you need:
â˘a house
â˘a car
â˘a career
â˘a nanny
â˘a housekeeper
â˘a dog groomer
â˘two kids
â˘a white picket fence
â˘suburban life
â˘a bridal shower
â˘a big wedding
â˘yearly vacations
â˘perfect holidays
â˘an online business
â˘a husband whoâs your best friend and your assistant
all without feeling overwhelmed or unappreciatedâŚ
Youâve bought the American dream.
â¨And now youâre drowning in it. . .
You donât have a life problem
â¨You have a priority problem.
The whole âa man should pay and a woman should never touch a billâ
take is ridiculous
For the first 10 years of my marriage, I paid for most things, our first home, the car, early investments we grew together.
If you want a man whoâs already built, why would he need you?
Marriage is about building together, not draining one person so the other can flourish.
Ladies, if you want to be married, youâve gotta show up to build, not just benefit.
Women donât love men.
Men love women.
That's why...
Once a woman starts making her own money,
She calls herself a "strong, independent woman."
Once a man starts making his own money,
He takes responsibility for his family.
To all men, why is this the case????
Children of divorce are more likely to suffer depression, anxiety, behavior disorders, attempt suicide, abuse drugs, drop out of school, commit crimes, be jailed, struggle financially, and repeat divorce in their own lives.
But sure, theyâll be ok as long as Mummaâs at âpeaceâ.
Studies show that children whose parents divorce after a high-conflict marriage often experience some measure of relief (though they still struggle).
Itâs the kids whose parents needed to âbe their authentic selves,â or âgrew apart,â or simply decided to âend that chapter,â who experience the most devastationâbecause thereâs no clear explanation for the breakup of a home where they felt the love of both Mom and Dad, exceptâŚ
âIt must be my fault.â
Before you waste your time trying to figure out what turns her on
â¨ask her if she likes herself.
Because thatâs the real key.
To unlock female sexuality, you first have to understand
â¨her sexuality is influenced by narcissism.
You could be 10 ft tall with a 10â hard-on, and the shop will still be closed.
Why?
â¨Because in order for a woman to be turned on, she has to be able to turn herself on.
She has to like what she sees in the mirror.
â¨She wants to be the turn-on.
â¨And to do that, she has to like herself.
This is where most men get confused.â¨
It goes against the whole âwomen are self-sacrificing sellersâ mantra.
But hereâs the truth
â¨a woman whoâs a slave to her own critical voice will fall into perfectionism.
Thatâs why no matter what a man does,â¨no matter how much choreplay or emotional labor he offers,â¨sheâll keep moving the goalpost.
Itâs her responsibility to silence that voice in her mind, telling her sheâs not good enough.
Otherwise, sheâll shut herself offâ¨no matter what you do.
A woman has to like herself.
â¨If she doesnât, she wonât like you.
â¨And she definitely wonât let herself be turned on.
Situation I see in Brooklyn a lot: couple waited until late 30s+ to have a kid for âcareer stabilityâ reasons. Late 30s come and the career isnât quite there yet but you go for it anyway because now the clock is ticking. Realize you want siblings and feeling the fertility pressure so space the kids super close. Now youâre 40 and exhausted with two under two. Both parents working full time so kids are getting fucked over by nannies and daycare and that doesnât even cover the full workload so the careers suffer anyway. One crisis (aging parent, cancer diagnosis, recession) away from being forced out of the workforce until youâre too old to hire back in.
Career moms will argue all day that their happiness is what matters, and that they should be free to do what suits them.
Why do they never discuss whatâs best for the children? We know why- because itâs not being raised in daycare.
Also, youâre just replacing yourself and your role as a mother with some random hourly employee at a daycare. Youâre simply outsourcing motherhood.
Do you really think your children prefer being in daycare all day?
You can never get those years back. By the time your child turns 18, you have already spent 95% of all the time you will ever spend with them. Choose wisely.