love bombing is a term many get confused. if someone is showing you a lot of affection/admiration and they remain kind and consistent, it is not love bombing. love bombing is showing someone a lot of admiration/affection, then devaluing and discarding them - and the cycle repeats
I sit back this morning creating alternatives instead of what feels… safe or normal to me.which my narrative could be incorrect. The consideration of all possibilities is what keeps the thoughts light
And when the parents are ready to give the vacillators affection, they're too angry to receive it.
In adulthood, they try to find a deep love they missed as children.
They idealize new relationships and once they feel let down, they grow doubtful.
The Vacillator
They grow up with unpredictable parents. And learned that their needs are not their parent's top priority.
They developed a fear of abandonment because they had no consistent affection from their parents.