Avoidants want a partner - but without being a partner. Avoidants want their needs met - without any pressure or expectations to meet your needs. And avoidants want a peace-full & drama-free relationship - without having to do any conflict-resolution or communication about problems so that they dont escalate. In other words: Avoidants - exactly like narcissists want all the benefits of you - without any expectations to provide the same in return.
True lovers know there is no such thing as someone "better," because love itself is what makes a person irreplaceable.
ofc, if you look around long enough, you will always find someone with better looks, money, higher status, intelligence, or a more impressive résumé. But they will not be your person, and that is why those comparisons become meaningless.
Love is what transforms ordinary traits into something sacred and it is why his laugh matters more than another man's beauty, why her voice better than another woman's perfection. The person becomes special because they are loved, not the other way around.
That is why if someone loves you primarily for your looks, money, status, or accomplishments, they do not truly love you, because there will always be someone with more. Desire built upon comparison remains trapped within comparison.
love begins when you are loved for being you, and everything else becomes merely complementary. Love chooses, and then makes that choice incomparable.
Suddenly turning nonchalant and emotionally unavailable after doing everything to make someone fall in love with you is a form of emotional abuse and manipulation.
Someone said, “No one notices your sadness until it turns into anger, and then you're the problem. Healing is realising you became the angry person because no one saw your sadness first,” and I really felt that.
God if my fate is to walk alone for a long time, then also give me the strength not to feel empty every time i see others being loved the way i wished to be loved
if love ever finds me again, may the universe let me meet someone who loves me as deep as i do. Someone who is never okay with hurting me. Someone who is loyal, kind & devoted. Someone who will never make me feel unwanted, someone who feels like home & also finds home in me.