Helen Reeve

Mother, feminist, ardent sock pairer, Early Years Teacher.

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@TheBullsEye1 @TheCiderShedPod I like Pip ☺️

[Dan Wuori @DanWuori]

I want to talk about trust and attachment in young children. And there’s no video here for good reason.

Several of you have recently tagged me to ask my thoughts on trending videos depicting parents engaging in one appalling behavior or another - in pursuit, apparently, of social media likes.

In one trend, parents pretend to be FaceTiming with their child’s new kindergarten teacher and call their child over to meet her. When they get to the phone, the child comes face to face with a photo of a scary looking adult (which in some cases appear to be mugshots of women deep in the throes of drug addiction, if, in fact, they are real at all). The children are almost always alarmed. Often they cry.

During one of the biggest transitions in their young child’s life (the start of school), these parents have chosen to stoke anxiety rather than provide comfort.

Other recent trends have involved parents in throwing slices of American cheese at their toddlers - or, more recently, unexpectedly cracking a raw egg on their child’s forehead during a joint cooking activity.

Obviously I’m not going to uplift any examples here. But I do want to address the harm these kinds of behaviors create from a developmental perspective.

The years of early childhood are a time during which trust and attachment are (ideally) formed. With love, attention, and responsive caregiving, young children learn that their world is safe. They develop self worth and self esteem. These are prerequisites to both learning and healthy development.

But the key to developing trust is consistency.

And the behaviors in these videos - even if rare and anomalous - serve only to undermine healthy attachment between parent and child. They provide children with data points that suggest their parents can be unexpectedly and arbitrary cruel. They are a violation of hard earned trust.

Some will argue that these are just jokes in good fun. They aren’t. They are the deliberate infliction of trauma, however brief, for the amusement of strangers. It should go without saying that this isn’t good for children.

Please. Don’t. Just don’t.

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@TheVintageYear George is awful. Your toms are lovely though.

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@ZinsserUK can you tell me what colour 123 deep tint is please? Bought accidentally and want to work out if it's useable.

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

Just when I thought I couldn't love Stella more.

#TheArchers

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

Wow. What a pair of spineless two faced bullies.

#TheArchers

@Lucyspeed I hope you're not leaving!

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@tweethue But it is connected via ethernet cable

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@tweethue I can't get my dimmer to be found during setup. Have tried 10s reset and putting in serial #. It will flash green as if connected but isn't registering in the app. Any ideas please?

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@tweethue Have found how to do this but bridge is not connecting to WiFi, but I can't see how to input my network settings other than DCHP

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@tweethue In the Hue App? I don't have the Bridge settings option....

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@tweethue Yes it's 2.4ghz

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@tweethue Yes bridge works fine with all my bulbs.

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@tweethue I've not tried via Bluetooth. This is a V2 and doesn't say Bluetooth compatible. Is it? I'm trying to connect to the Hue app presumably via the bridge.

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@tweethue Thank you. No other accessories. No error, just searches and then after a number of minutes it gives up. And the orange flashing stops as soon as it starts searching. It's a new dimmer and not been connected. Do you mean Bluetooth to the hub? I don't have any Bluetooth bulbs

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@iconawrites Too hard for me. Twitter is a brutal place. I was brought up on pineapple and cheese on sticks. I can't help it.

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@iconawrites Look, I was with you until you brought pineapple into it.

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@Lucyspeed She definitely seems like she would be. ☺️ She's such a great balance of strong, confident and vulnerable. And I think not knowing much about her is part of the intrigue! Thank you for bringing her to life so exquisitely ❤️

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@Lucyspeed nice to hear Stella again, she's hands down my favourite character. But please, when are we going to have official confirmation that she's a lesbian?? 😅🤞🙏🌈

[Helen Reeve @Helen_Reeve_]

@Lucyspeed I do get that, and I agree 💪 it IS refreshing. I think it's that part of me growing up with no representation that so enjoys when there are positive storylines - they're too few and far between. Plus I love Stella and I don't want her to end up with Will Grundy 😂😂😂