What if the moments you feel most closed to your partner are actually portals into the most profound intimacy - if only you'd dare to stay present through the discomfort?
Underrated Relationship Skill #39: The ability to stay curious about your partner
Not how familiarity tells you to see them
Not how past hurts have defined them
Not how comfort has categorized them
But with the same awe-filled wonder you had when their mystery first drew you in
Half-heartedness is the antithesis of life.
Go all in on your mission
Go all in on your parenting
Go all in on your relationship
Go all in on your spiritual practice
Go all in on your mental/physical health
Men, practice this today:
Come into your partner’s physical space with nothing but the energetic quality of warmth, adoration, and desire for her.
No words. No expectations.
Just the presence of this energetic signature.
Trust me, she feels it.
The moment you realize that your partner isn’t a secondary character in your life story, but a sovereign being consenting to “do life” with you… you move beyond covert narcissism and into true, authentic relating.
Sure. it’s nice when she’s in her secure, sensual and fully embodied expression of the feminine.
But that moment when she’s not… and instead of condemning or withdrawing, you offer her your unwavering presence and adoration - daring to see her in her beauty and fullness beyond the temporary display of unhealed childhood trauma until she gently unfurls and relaxes back into her radiant, beautiful self?
Yea, that shit’s glorious.
Muscle gains are made on the torturous last rep.
Relationship gains are made in staying grounded and open-hearted even amidst your most ancient wounds being prodded against by your partner’s accidental misfires.
Women:
When you share a need or desire with your partner, allow him space to show up and gift it from a place of desire and generosity.
The energy of “obligation” and “expectation” is castrating for him - and lifeless for you.