I have said this before, and I’m saying it again. You are not the only guy a woman is talking to. Coming to terms with this bitter truth early will save you a lot of emotional distress and heartbreak.
It is a hard pill to swallow, but I’m telling you: very few women are talking to just one guy. At best, you are her favorite ngga, not her only ngga.
This doesn’t necessarily mean she’s cheating on you, but many women like to keep their options open. They give out their numbers even while they’re in serious relationships.
They subtly flirt or entertain flirting from other men. They receive gifts from men they know want to sleep with them. The decent ones won’t cheat on you, but when the relationship ends, just know that the “new guy” was probably never new. You just never knew.
The men in her DMs? A good number of them are not disturbing her like she tells you. Matter of fact, it’s your babe who’s disturbing some of them.
Women only show you chats with men they don’t like. She’s deleting messages, archiving chats, and locking the conversations with the one she secretly likes.
I also say this as a former side ngga, and it is a position every man needs to be in at least once in his lifetime to truly understand how sneaky women can be. It will ruin your dating experience in a way, but it will teach you game. It will open your eyes to certain patterns. The character development and clarity you gain from being a side ngga are second to none. You’ll just have to trade your innocence and trust for them.
Women are not innocent at all.
"With the way this government is going, I may not even be alive to contest the 2027 election. Every single thing I do for a living, this government is deliberately frustrating. I face frustration every day. They recently locked my car at the airport."
—NDC presidential candidate, Mr. Peter Obi
There's a reason your father never slept at your maternal home...Rather he will take you guys there and leave immidiately to come back later evening or next day to pick you guys up....
If you fail to guard yourself as a man you will definitely cry tomorrow.
Around here, we don’t do “happy wife, happy home.” We do “happy couple, happy home.”
The husband’s happiness matters too. We’re not inheriting the silence of our fathers.
A Man Introducing his woman/wife to his guys automatically makes her “Our Wife”
And by implication, any form of protection extends towards her from that moment onwards.
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On the flip side, there’s no ‘our husband’ culture with those other ‘people’.. Nothing extends towards you.. zero perks.
If their girl says it as a joke lasan gan… Wahala le shele!
If I even want to sound harsh, i’d say..
As Man, your woman friends useless to you like m@d.
But I won’t say such.. Coz i’m a changed Man now. 🙏🏻