@AperehamL@IterIntellectus Except this is literally the opposite. Be healthy,create safety, warmth, peace for your women. Inducing dread is the exact opposite of that. That's cortisol maxxing and exactly what kills the relationship. Maybe actually read next time.
https://t.co/Jehp6pThWl
women need oxytocin to feel connected and oxytocin comes from safety and touch. men need dopamine to feel motivated and dopamine comes from achievement and appreciation. when both collapse you call it incompatibility
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Recently at lunch, a guy asked if my wife and I were dating
"No, we're married."
"How long?"
"16 years."
His jaw dropped. "Seriously? You guys don't act married."
And there it is.
The unspoken truth about modern marriage: we've accepted that "married" means dead inside.
No affection. No fun. Just two exhausted people managing chaos together.
But here's what he actually saw:
• My arm around her waist in line • Us laughing about something stupid • Actually looking at each other instead of our phones • Choosing to spend lunch TOGETHER instead of "getting a break"
This isn't luck. It's not "good genetics" or "you just found the right one."
It's intentional.
What we do that most couples don't:
- Regular dates (non-negotiable) Even if it's just a lunch during the workday. Time together without kids talking over us.
- Physical affection in public. Hold hands. Hug. Kiss. Don't save intimacy for the bedroom—it builds connection everywhere.
- Talk about US, not just logistics. We have conversations that aren't about bills, schedules, or what the kids need.
- I still flirt with my wife Compliment her. Make her laugh. Tease her. Don't treat her like a business partner.
- Protect marriage time from kid time. Our kids are important. Our marriage is THE FOUNDATION. If it crumbles, so does everything else.
Here's the hard truth:
Your marriage isn't dying because you're "too busy."
It's dying because you stopped prioritizing it.
Every time you choose Netflix over conversation. Every time you let a month pass without a real date. Every time you treat your wife like a roommate instead of your partner.
You're choosing slow death over intentional life.
16 years in, my wife and I still get mistaken for a dating couple.
Not because we're special.
Because we refuse to let "married" mean "done trying."
When's the last time you actually DATED your wife?
We literally make fun of him because he does meth, wants to break his legs to become taller, injects Botox in his minor gf and does not have testicles because he used steroids at 14.
He's the Kardashian of incels.
@BalsamicRspctr@thedimitri They can go learn normal shit like how to carry a conversation,how to flirt, how to tell jokes, how to dress well, get fit,how to make more money, have hobbies/friends n a well rounded life... but nah, its gotta be mentally ill behaviors like this.