You meet her.
You fall in love with her.
You make her the goal of your life.
You have sacrificed everything for her.
You ignored your family and friends for her.
Then she leaves you for another man
And that is your fault not her.
“I got spanked, and I turned out fine” needs to be looked at deeper.
- Can you handle your emotions without having outbursts or meltdowns?
- What do your relationships look like?
- How do people close to you feel in your presence?
- Do your respect your body?
- Do you need substances to cope?
Fine can mean you exist in survival mode. Humans are meant to thrive. Abuse does not set up the foundation for us to thrive. It’s sets the foundation for shame, high defensiveness, and dysfunctional relationships.