IDVA LB

Independent Domestic & Sexual Violence Advisor. Criminology & Social Policy graduate. Views are my own.

[IDVA LB @IDVALB]

Notice how all the women said ‘no’ when first offered a drink by Worboys. Their instinct said it wasn’t right, but they did it anyway as women are taught to be polite and amenable to keep themselves safe. Every woman has gone along with something that made them uneasy. #BelieveMe

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Listening to Alana Percival podcast episode about Lee Andrews. She is so open and reflects so well. I hope Katie Price hears this interview.

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@BenGunnEx Okay so… what are men doing to protect men from violence against women? Starting a movement? Is it now women to blame for there being hardly any services run by men to address this issue?

[IDVA LB @IDVALB]

@BenGunnEx Interested to see how that 40/% looks. Likely a big proportion is counter-allegations, same sex relationships etc. Feminist does not mean hating men or denying that there are female perpetrators. It means that male violence against women is disproportionate & more harmful.

[IDVA LB @IDVALB]

@BenGunnEx Well, Ben. That’s a lot of assumptions. I support men and women. I have never said that men cannot be victims of DV. VAWG is on a much larger scale, and I primarily talk about male violence for this reason.

[IDVA LB @IDVALB]

@BenGunnEx @vitt2tsnoc The original post is talking about gender based violence from men towards women. Talking about men being unsafe form other men is irrelevant to this topic.

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@benonwine Sadly, abuse always escalates at the point a victim leaves. I have no doubt that he was known to police for DV offences. Every measure can be put in place to try and protect victims but the perpetrator will likely never be deterred and will find a way.

[IDVA LB @IDVALB]

@BenGunnEx @vitt2tsnoc Men are being killed by other men. Not sure what the relevance is here.

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Often high risk victims who need to flee can find themselves waiting days/ weeks before a homelessness assessment, to be told there is nothing for them. The housing crisis has meant further incidents of DA, people returning to the abuse and we will see more fatalities.

[ITV Wales News @ITVWales]

EXCLUSIVE: Lack of housing ‘putting domestic abuse victims lives in danger’
https://t.co/nuEFNHZK3B

[IDVA LB @IDVALB]

Know the early signs of control in relationships:
-Putting you down/belittling
-Questioning yourself/ modifying your behaviour
-Making you feel bad for seeing friends or family
-Always worrying about saying ‘the wrong thing’
-Pushing your boundaries
-Jealousy / accusations

[IDVA LB @IDVALB]

@nataliepage This is the biggest downfall of the family court system. The argument that you can be a ‘good parent’ regardless of domestic abuse is tiring. No one is displaying good parenting if their children are seeing them abuse the other parent - let alone the risk of child being harmed.

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@cmwrawcliffe @David_Challen Very true, Catherine!

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Good morning! I’ve been working for a different domestic abuse service for the last few years, and thought I’d bring this account back as I still have a lot to say about VAW 😄 Thanks for sticking with my page!

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@Avaface09 I despair.

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https://t.co/4ide6SsFEy

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Women falsely reporting rape accounts for 4% of all reported rapes. But how often do we hear that women lie about rape all the time & can’t be believed? Hint- it’s a lot.

Yet we see women being killed by men EVERY DAY and people will not label them as abusers/murderers. WHY?

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@judith_vickress @cpsuk I am so upset about this. What more do they need? A woman has lost her life & this man has put on the most embarrassing & pitiful display of ‘remorse’. He is a killer & it seems unless people see someone being murdered they will never believe domestic homicides can occur.

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I’m livid that this man has been cleared of murder and that her death has been diminished to a ‘kerfuffle’. He is described on the news as ‘charming’. So sick of this rhetoric.
Watch the video in this article; there is not a tear in sight. He killed her.
https://t.co/eA6l63QYUr

[IDVA LB @IDVALB]

@DrJessTaylor We have been ordered by a judge in family court previously to cease supporting a child under our CYP team as we were ‘coaching’ him in what to say to say in court and it wasn’t true. About a child who had suffered abuse and trauma.