A Hurricane of Jacarandas 🍃🌸🌸

I will never let you fall I'll stand up with you forever. Even if saving you sends me to heaven.

[La Morra Lisa @LaMorraLisa]

bueno raza toca seguir echándole ganas desde nuestras trincheras y demostrar la chingonería de país que somos

[Kevin Pho, M.D. @kevinmd]

85 to 90 percent of women physicians are eldest daughters.

That is not a coincidence. That is a pipeline.

Eldest daughters are trained, before age five, to over-function. They take on a parent's worry. They organize the family. They clean up without being asked. They do not ask for help, because they were rewarded their whole childhood for not needing any.

Then they walk into medicine.

A career that demands hyper-responsibility, hypervigilance, perfectionism, and silent sacrifice does not have to ask these women to give those things. They were giving them before they could read.

The system is not stumbling into a burnout problem. The system is recruiting from a pool of people whose entire childhood was a training program for it.

This is what pediatrician and certified coach Jessie Mahoney has been finding when she asks the room. In every group, in every retreat. Maybe one or two women are not eldest daughters. The rest have been carrying something since before they could spell their own name.

Most of those women blame themselves. "Why don't I have boundaries?" "Why do I over-function?" "Why can't I delegate?"

Because at five years old, your family rewarded you for over-functioning. Because every teacher praised you for it. Because the medical training system selected for it. Because every job since has reinforced it. The pattern is older than your medical degree by twenty years.

The other piece nobody names: by the time these women are in their fifties, they are carrying eldest-daughter responsibility for aging parents AND running a department as chief AND running a household. The role does not retire when the children do. It just compounds.

Jessie's reframe is the part worth bookmarking.

The "hero" framing is the trap. Eldest daughters were made the savior of the family before they could read. Then medicine made them the savior of the patient. Then the department made them the savior of the team. At every stage, they learned that if they did not do it, terrible things would happen and it would be their fault.

Awareness is the first move. Non-judgment is the second. Excellence is not doing everything yourself. Excellence is letting other people do their jobs.

You are allowed to gift some of it back. You can ask your siblings to carry the aging parent. You can let your medical assistant do the medical assistant's job. You can stop covering the gap that nobody actually asked you to cover.

Most eldest daughters in medicine have never asked for help. When they finally do, they discover people are willing to help. The asking was the whole obstacle.

Listen to the full conversation on The Podcast by KevinMD. Link in the replies.

What is the one task you have been carrying for your family or your team that no one ever actually asked you to carry?

#ThePodcastbyKevinMD

[Tocinoerys Targaryen. @Tocinosaurio]

Como pensé que sería la residencia // Como realmente es:

[A Hurricane of Jacarandas 🍃🌸🌸 @IUVENOR]

Hay algo patológico en cómo te aseguras de leer los mismos libros que yo, publicar los mismos memes, subir la misma música e incluso usar la misma ropa y buscar salir con mis amigos 🫠🫠🫠

[✨Eimy∴Carolina✨ @inconssiente]

Ustedes no tienen ni idea de cómo me acabo de cagar de la risa

[AIRBAG bot @pormilnoches]

Tal vez mañana vuelvas a venir

[Danisaurio @soydanielmr]

volví a ver la parte de Caos en el "día de muertas" y qué ganas de ver un show de standup suyo, la vdd

[A Hurricane of Jacarandas 🍃🌸🌸 @IUVENOR]

Tuve la inocencia de amarte sin reservas y no me arrepiento.

[A Hurricane of Jacarandas 🍃🌸🌸 @IUVENOR]

Deetox diciendo que a Nyla “le tocaba” irse al doblaje CUANDO LA MENOS ERA ELLA 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[ᴍᴀᴍɪᴛᴀ ʀɪᴄᴀ @memoisjochis]

@porktendencia

[Lina. @LaRepelente]

Buenos días.

[A Hurricane of Jacarandas 🍃🌸🌸 @IUVENOR]

Mis variantes son monster y enamorarme del peor prospecto en la 1 y la 2, las demás igual

[Señor Doctor Profesor PokeAnestesia @DrPokeAnestesia]

Yo siempre he creído que hay cinco formas de sobrevivir a la residencia:

1. Drogarse
2. Coger
3. Comer
4. Hacerse pendejo
5. Dormir

Cada quién elige su cruz.
PD: Drogarse incluye café, monster, y otras cosas.

Todas tienen variantes 🤷🏻

[Memes Universidad Nacional @nacional_memes]

Si soy 🐱

[A Hurricane of Jacarandas 🍃🌸🌸 @IUVENOR]

Tenía planes, pero la depre tenía otrooos planes 🫠

[Pime🧡 @WhoTheUserCares]

Nos toca a las Kpopers salir a pedir #JusticiaParaFátima, una estudiante de la secundaria #236 en Iztapalapa, CDMX a quien sus compañeros aventaron desde un 2o piso de la escuela por ser Kpoper, había denunciado que le hacían bullying y aún así la escuela la ignoró

[A Hurricane of Jacarandas 🍃🌸🌸 @IUVENOR]

Como me caga que me digan “mija” 🙄🙄🙄

[A Hurricane of Jacarandas 🍃🌸🌸 @IUVENOR]

Yo no le hablé, solo contesté 👀