Wisdom Gbenga

Helping Men become Husbands & Fathers whose character commands respect.
Leadership • Maturity • Family • Wisdom

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

When I was preparing for marriage in 2009, my father told me something I didn’t fully understand:

“Don’t choose someone only because you love them. Choose someone whose character you can live with.”

I thought he was being too serious.
I was young.

I thought love was the hard part.

Seventeen years later, I finally understand him.

Before you marry someone, don’t only watch how they treat you when they’re happy.

Watch them when they’re angry.
When they’re broke.
When they’re wrong.
When they don’t get their way.
Watch how they treat people who can’t do anything for them.

Watch how they handle money, correction, disagreement, and responsibility.

You’re not only marrying the person you see when life is good.

You’re marrying the person you’ll have to live with when life gets hard.

Beauty changes.
Money comes and goes.
The butterflies settle.
But character comes home with you every day.

What did someone older than you tell you about love or marriage that only made sense years later?

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@NajifaAI Wrong wife

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@danellisona My account got suspended and I need your follow

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@DearS_o_n The world trade in different currencies

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@jon_d_doe I got mine suspended too last week. It was painful sha but we begin again

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@TheLowkeyMummy This must be a skit or some play

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

The hand that taught you the net
deserves more than your competition.

It deserves distance and gratitude.

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

I have spent about 30 years in northern Nigeria back to back and have visited 17 out of 19 northern states

Only Adamawa and Taraba States are excluded

I have listened to the Imams in these States

I have heard them say the same to their people and the result is what we see

For your information, I was a Muslim from the south before I changed to Christianity

My Dad was a Muslim that married a Christian Woman

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@jon_d_doee Where is the lie?

When you see a Woman bodly talking g like this, you already know she's the man of the house

The mums is there laughing

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@VikyInsights Lack ot shame.
Parental failure

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

This is beautiful.

Because sometimes,
a man isn't asking for much.

He just wants to know that his efforts have not become invisible.

So if you have a good man beside you, don't wait until his hair turns grey before you tell him you appreciate him.

You don't need money.

Tell him.
Thank him.
Encourage him.

And if you can,
surprise him sometimes.

Not because he has earned love by providing

but because appreciation should never become a casualty of familiarity.

To the men quietly doing their best for their families:

We see you.
We appreciate you.
May your efforts never be in vain.

Don't just fall in love
Understand what you're building

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

This DM is sweet to read 😊

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@jon_d_doe When you give someone money that is beyond her capacity, she will never know what to do with it

It is a mind problem

Na why she's entitled.

If they gift her 15m this time without a mind upgrade, she will comeback 3 years later for more.

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@talk2veee The land is not the problem
Giving him is not her problem

There is a hidden pain somewhere that needs urgent attention

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@Araoluwanimi01 Goat Farming
Poultry Farming
Stocks

You need to answer some questions before you ask for the kind of business you want.

1. What is my risk appetite?
2. What is my financial goal?
3. How long do I hold the fund?

Then, you can be advised appropriately

I hope this helps

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

Let us assume this is the truth picture of what happened since none of them told us their own side of the story

I don't think this woman is afraid of giving her husband the land.

I think she's afraid of this:

“What if I give him everything today, and he still leaves me tomorrow?”

That fear is understandable.

After 14 years of marriage, giving her salary to her husband and finally having one property of her own,

she wants something she knows she can fall back on.

But let's be fair.

She was wrong to hide the land from him.

And if he also secretly acquired property without telling her,

then he cannot demand from her what he wasn't willing to practise himself.

But please—leave the children out of the conflict.

They should never become weapons in a disagreement between husband and wife.

To the wife: don't transfer the land because you're afraid of divorce.

If you genuinely want to give it to your husband, that's different.

But never sign away valuable property under pressure without independent legal advice.

To the husband: being the man of the house doesn't mean your wife's fears don't matter.

Leadership is not “Do what I say.” It's “Let's find a solution that protects both of us.”

And please don't treat the cheating allegation as fact unless it is verified.

The land is not the real problem.

The real problem is that two people who should feel safe with each other are now protecting themselves from each other.

That's what they need to fix.

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

What some people called "bad mareiage" or "failed marriage" are not about cheating or money.

It is marrying someone with a
Negative
Pessimistic
Uncooperative mindset

Difficult to love
Difficult to live with
Difficult to build with

Do your head check before "I do"
Some people aren't mentally okay

Pick a mind before you pick a ring
A bad marriage is 90% a bad mindset

You can survive poverty together
You can't survive war in your home

Do the head check first

If you clinically do this

Your marriage will not feel like he'll

It is not magic
It is the mind

Marriage only magnify those in it

If the person is not good
Marriage will not fix it

Marriage will wrap you with it

That is why I always say

Don't just fall in love
Understand what you're building

Kindly follow @IamWisdomGbenga and let's build strong marriages and relationships together ❤️

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@Aynoniii Na women dey always plenty pass.
Na man dey always lead them

Feminism in the mud

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@SportyStacey7 Na just small stage play. Nor too take am too serious

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

I am sure he is referring to Dr. Joe Abah in his silly disrespect. I don't even think he deserves attention but to be ignored

You just know such a guy is lazy, ignorant, and taught by a failed parent.

No man insult someone perceived elderly and respected in the community.

He is to be pitied above all else

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

@Adenry10 @jon_d_doe Yes but not the way Allah instructed it in the quoran. In the bible, it is for procreation and companionship

In the quoran, it is for domination and conquer your host

[Wisdom Gbenga @IamWisdomGbenga]

Sexual compatibility matters in marriage,

You are choosing someone you will grow older with.

Bodies will change.
Desire will fluctuate.
Stress,
children,
age
and life will test intimacy.

Communicate about sex without shame, resentment, or manipulation

Find some one you can remain attracted to even when the six-pack disappears

Learn each other's changing needs?

If life gerharder, can you still be affectionate?

Physical attraction may open the door.

Friendship,
communication,
commitment,
and genuine desire must be learned as you grow together

Marriage is not where you come come to rest.

You will work out how you want it to be

Successful marriage is not for lazy people

No lazy person is Successful in marriage

That is why I always say:

Don't just fall in love
Understand what you're building