My general rule for feeling mentally well is understanding that the more I judge others negatively, the more I anticipate negative judgement from others. Practicing kindness and leniency and forgiveness has no guarantee of reciprocation, but it puts you in a better state of mind.
There’s a lady on TikTok whose whole account is showing you how little time it takes to clean up that mess, send that email, or close those little open loops and it’s the most wholesome and effective psyop I’ve ever been exposed to.
hear me out: you are not an imposter who fooled everyone. you're a competent person who hasn't updated their self-image since the last time they felt small.
I saw a little girl who looked to be around 8 in the bathroom washing her hands & I said “wow you’re so pretty!” & then when I got into the stall I heard her tell her mom & her mom said “see, I told you!”
On a nduthi, the nduthi guy takes a wrong turn alafu dere wa matatu shouts “we madam unakubali aje kubebwa na wazimu kama huyo, ama wewe pia ni wazimu!”😭
I was an extremely guilty child, constantly wracked with shame. I'm happy to report that this trait has not translated to my daughter, who just fumbled a large watermelon, watched it explode on the ground, and declared "oh well, it was heavy."