Ms.Ibbz

Passionate about Sickle Cell Disorder awareness, education, mentorship and advocacy.
JC is the homie. Phil 1:6

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

@_meera__abdul Girrrrrrrl. I'm sat.

[The Biblical Man @Biblicalman]

My wife and I almost lost our marriage to a friendship.

Not an affair.

Not another man.

Her best friend.

It started small.

A text here. A call there.

"She just gets me."

I didn't think anything of it.

Until I noticed my wife told her things she didn't tell me.

Hard days at work. Fears about the kids. Doubts about us.

Her best friend got the real her.

I got the tired version.

The leftover version.

The one who said "I'm fine" when I asked how she was.

One night I found her crying on the phone.

With her.

Not me.

I stood in the doorway.

She didn't even notice.

That's when I realized:

I wasn't losing my wife to another man.

I was losing her to a counterfeit intimacy that felt safer than me.

No risk.

No vulnerability.

No covenant weight.

Just comfort without cost.

I sat her down the next morning.

"I feel like I'm third in my own marriage."

She got defensive at first.

"She's just my friend. You're overreacting."

But then I asked:

"When's the last time you told me something before you told her?"

Silence.

She couldn't remember.

Neither could I.

We didn't fix it overnight.

But we started.

She stopped running to her phone when she was hurting.

She came to me instead.

Awkward at first.

We'd forgotten how.

Your wife doesn't need a best friend who "gets her."

She needs a husband who pursues her.

And brother…

If she's running to someone else with her heart?

Maybe it's because you stopped being safe enough to hold it.

Your spouse should know you better than anyone on earth.

If they don't, that's not their failure.

It's your invitation.

Go get your wife back.

Not from another man.

From the counterfeit comfort she's settled for.

Because you stopped showing up.

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

So many; but @iamnotmyscd has Sickle Cell Health Initiative, CAC registered org. We focus mostly on awareness, education, and advocacy. We have an upcoming summit for Sept that we could use some help with 🙏🏾

[Dapo Olusola @lifeofdapo_]

Does anybody know any Sickle cell NGO that we could raise money for. Myself and @allenakinkunle are doing a London to Paris cycling trip and it would be nice to link that to a good cause.

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

Respectfully.
Smh, it's so ugly! Ugh.

[𝔗𝔯𝔲𝔱𝔥 𝔐𝔞𝔱𝔱𝔢𝔯𝔰 @politicsusa46]

@elonmusk

[ChoniFrancis @Choni_]

@respawnedtarga1 Tell me you ain’t feel’m when he said this.

[Dami’ Adenuga @DAMIADENUGA]

Women eye dey see things. Isn't this wickedness to his wife? She even said please

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

@TobiDaGreatest Thank God they're fine. Didn't know you're from Akure too 🤜🏾

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

We were just speaking about this yesterday @flakes_ff

[Jola @Jollz]

One of the life hacks people don’t really talk about is kind, loving parents and growing up in a peaceful household.

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

@OluwaSparkle $700 ke. Wahala.

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

@OluwaSparkle 🤣🤣🤣 blow weestle biti bawo

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

@st_chinny @doitlikejuls @funferekoroye As in.

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

@doitlikejuls @funferekoroye Ah. Kilode. Yikes 😬😬

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

Ah.

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

@Naijadiva Boya you shd take test oo, there's something in the air 👀

[Temi @TheManAfricano]

@TobiDaGreatest Wish a lot of people can understand the damage it always have on the kids. That is why I say it is selfish of any man to even think about having an extra marital affair not to talk about engaging in one.

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

@OluwaSparkle Why was this literally in my head as I was opening this app. But we all know NYC will humble you, so I can see why it is what it was.

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

Is this a sign for me to log right back off, this is the first tweet I saw on my TL. What's happening in these streets ke 😭😓

[𝓨𝓿𝓸𝓷𝓷𝓮 𝓝𝓮𝓵𝓼𝓸𝓷 @yvonnenelsongh]

Insults wont work michael. Respect womanhood , Im happy the world gets to see how you are playing this and the real you. Young women get to learn from this. You would get the applause for a rap.still doesn’t change the TRUTH.

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

@OluwaSparkle Asheju ni baba asete. Toh. Now that we're here, everyone's body go rest.

[Ms.Ibbz @Ibbz_ter]

@thesheilaojei Funny my sis @verilyveo was there too, you ppl well done oo 🥲🥲 send suya!