if a website asks me for a verification code and i check my email and it's not in there within 0.1 picosecond of the request i roar and swing my arms madly and start hurting those close to me
You're gonna have to hear me out on this but its so normalized for people to prioritize their romantic partners over friendships. Suddenly when i tell them a secret their partner knows too. If their partner becomes their new #1 and theyre still my #1 it feels isolating