To the Americans:
I've travelled all over the world. I've familiarized myself with many places, and met many people. And I'm a Canadian, although I’m privileged to reside once again in the States.
And here's something I've noticed, and it’s a key element of America's continuing greatness:
You bloody Americans value success, and you believe in its existence.
This is something that doesn't really happen anywhere else in the world. Even in other free democracies—the United Kingdom; Finland, Sweden, and Norway; Australia, New Zealand and Canada; Germany, France, and the Netherlands (great countries all)—a counterproductive cynicism too often reigns.
Success is equated with exploitation.
Ambition is looked upon with contempt.
This happens sometimes in the United States too—particularly among the miserable progressives, who confuse their resentment, ingratitude and unearned skepticism with wisdom.
But in your great country, by and large, striving is admired and success celebrated.
This means that more people strive and succeed in the US than anywhere else. And it's increasingly obvious. You remain stunningly more innovative and productive than any people anywhere else on the planet.
And so I say, as all should who are fortunate enough to live in the western world, let alone America:
Thank God for the United States.
Thank God for the wisdom of its founders.
Thank God for its faith in the free market and in the natural rights of man.
Happy birthday, you damn Yankees and Southerners.
Long may your admirable country dominate the world.
Long may your freedom and hope provide an example to those suffering everywhere at the hands of their malevolent states.
May your two and a half centuries of unparallelled success be just the beginning.
Your country is the light of the world, and the city on the hill.
Thank God for the USA.
Happy 250th.
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson
Have not been my best lately.
Going through the motions.
Things felt sort of grey.
On a bit of autopilot.
Got complacent.
Last night I decided F*** THAT!!!!
Journaled, prayed, went to bed early & woke today to just be a freaking SAVAGE.
Doing hard things like sprints until I'm gonna puke always makes me feel alive, back on mission, & GETS ME OUT OF MY OWN HEAD.
I'm not talking to everybody here, but I'm talking to ONE PERSON.......
Go push yourself today!
Do something that scares you.
Go as hard as you possibly can!!
Reject average & embrace SAVAGE.
Reject good & soar for great.
We are only here once, stop wasting time!!
WARNING: Longer post (but worth reading or bookmarking for later).
Your life has seasons.
Each one is unique. Characterized by its own distinct desires, struggles, opportunities, and identity.
But one reflection I've had recently is just how easy it is to completely disassociate with the present season.
To give all your time and energy toward a longing for some nostalgic memory of a prior season or an anticipation for some beautiful state of a future season.
You look back at the past and all you see is sunshine. Because it all worked out. You forget (or glaze over) the struggle you endured. You're here today. You made it. You're alive. You're doing fine.
You look forward at the future and dream on what could be. You'll have so much more. More freedom. More purpose. More health. More deep connection. More everything.
The past is beautiful and the future feels limitless. So, logically, you slowly start to treat everything about the present as the bridge. A dash connecting your past and your future. A gap to be crossed as quickly as possible.
Everything you do today is in anticipation of some eventual end state.
I'm doing this now, so that I can have that later.
Unfortunately, the danger of that dissociation with the present is significant. You may spend your entire life living for a future that has a decidedly mirage-like property. You inch closer, but when it's right in front of you, it disappears and reappears on the horizon.
You may spend your entire life skipping through the present, deferring your presence, your joy, and your very humanity to a future that never comes.
In a classic French fable, a young boy is gifted with a magic ball of golden thread. He's told that if he simply pulls on the thread, time will leap forward. The catch, of course, is that once it's pulled, it can never be put back.
The young boy takes advantage of the newfound powers. Each time he's faced with a boring day at school, a frustrating set of chores, or a scolding from his parents, he pulls the thread, skipping through to the good parts.
As an adult, he continues, leaping through mundane struggles in his marriage, the friction of having a newborn, and the boredom at work. He finds himself pulling on the thread more and more, avoiding even the most minor inconveniences of his life.
But when he wakes up one day and sees an old man looking back at him in the mirror, he's filled with regret. He realizes in that moment that as he chose to skip through the boredom, struggles, and friction, so too did he miss the real texture of being alive.
How often do we all do the same? How easily do we default into this disassociation? Disconnecting from the present in anticipation of some future.
A mentor recently asked me this:
"Where are you going and why are you in such a rush?"
It hit me hard.
And to be honest, I haven't stopped replaying those words since he said them.
Why are you in such a rush?
The world wants you to rush into everything. Rushed decisions. Rushed conversations. Rushed relationships. Rushed timelines.
In doing so, you slowly relinquish your agency. You give up your claim on your own life. Surrender authorship to a pen that was never even yours.
In a world that wants you to rush, the ultimate act of rebellion is presence.
Be in the season you're in. Don't romanticize the past, don't fantasize the future. Be here. Be now. Be in this. All of its texture, depth, and struggle. All of its joy, tension, and pain. Sit with the uncertainty. Become friends with it. Fall in love with it.
Because every single thing you do today is something your younger self dreamed of and something your older self will wish they could go back and do.
The good old days are happening, right now.
And the next time you find yourself skipping through the present, remember these words:
Where are you going and why are you in such a rush?
Also, occasionally give them your phone with the video already recording and see what they capture. Find out what catches their attention and what they value.
@ZubyMusic Take too many videos. Pictures are cute but they don’t capture their baby voice, or their curious questions, or their imagination, or their changing expressions, or the sweetness of their love. Gotta capture the good stuff on video.
@ZubyMusic Take too many videos. Pictures are cute but they don’t capture their baby voice, or their curious questions, or their imagination, or their changing expressions, or the sweetness of their love. Gotta capture the good stuff on video.
Major cheat code for life: Become difficult to rush. The world will pressure you to rush into everything. Rushed decisions. Rushed conversations. Rushed relationships. Rushed timelines. There's immense power in rejecting that trend. Slow down. Create space to think clearly.
A blog post from my wife.
Men are called to LEAD.
I hear "my wife would never do these things" I ask... have you done them long enough and shown by action how doing the things (training, personal development) has changed the dynamics of your relationships?
It's too easy to pass the buck!
I do things with our without my wife (or anyone for that matter) BUT ALWAYS invite her and others.
She comes along more times than not! And has found the same treasure that I have. And the same one that is waiting for you on the other side of doing the hard things
WHOA: Spencer Pratt just EXPOSED the real reason Kamala Harris endorsed Los Angeles Democrat Karen Bass for mayor.
Pratt says the endorsement has NOTHING to do with Bass’s policies in LA.
PRATT: “Yeah, obviously, Kamala Harris loves Karen Bass.”
“Because of Karen Bass letting the Pacific Palisades and Malibu burn down, Kamala Harris was able to get a $2 million discount on her new house in Malibu that if Karen Bass hadn’t let her burn most of Malibu and most of the Palisades to the ground, she never would have been able to get that $2 million discount.”
“It really does not matter who endorses Bass because the people who endorse me are the women and mothers that want to feel safe again in the streets of L.A.”
“And my two opponents will not enforce any laws and that’s why women and mothers and kids do not feel safe in the streets of L.A.”
“So she’ll take any endorsement to keep her corrupt politician career going here.”
@spencerpratt
🔥 WOW - Another INSANE Campaign Ad released by Former Reality TV Star Spencer Pratt as he runs for Mayor of Los Angeles CA.
Whoever Mr. Pratt hired for media is ON POINT!
I live 3,000 miles away but California and New Jersey have some of the SAME PROBLEMS!
I am HYPED. Lets Go! @spencerpratt
Keep Fighting 🇺🇸
I can pretty confidently say that this works 100% of the time. If you convince yourself that you are going to be fine and that things will work out, they on average will because self-doubt just gets torn apart.
None of this stuff is real anyway, just convince yourself.
Astronaut Tim Peake demonstrates aboard the International Space Station, a stationary object in microgravity will tumble aimlessly with even the slightest tap. But once a gyroscope begins to spin, it instantly locks into a rigid geometric plane, stubbornly refusing to be tilted.
This phenomenon is driven by angular momentum. The rapid rotation creates a powerful resistance to outside forces, granting the object an invisible, unyielding stability.
This is far more than a simple physics trick. This exact principle of spin stabilization is what keeps the massive space station perfectly oriented as it orbits the Earth; a profound reminder that in the chaotic vacuum of space, sometimes the only way to stay perfectly still is to keep moving.
The scariest finding in this paper: the subjects couldn't tell it was happening.
UPenn ran this study on 48 healthy adults. One group slept 8 hours. Another slept 6. Another slept 4. For 14 straight days. They tested cognitive performance every 2 hours from 7:30am to 11:30pm.
The 6-hour group's reaction times, working memory, and sustained attention deteriorated on a near-linear curve. By day 14 they were performing at the same level as someone who hadn't slept at all in 48 hours. The 4-hour group hit that threshold by day 6.
Here's the part that should unsettle everyone who thinks they "do fine" on 6 hours: the subjects' self-reported sleepiness flatlined after the first few days. Their brains kept getting worse. Their perception of how impaired they were stopped updating. The cognitive decline was invisible to the person experiencing it.
The researchers found a hard threshold. Any wakefulness beyond 15.84 hours in a day produces cumulative neurobiological cost. That cost compounds every single day you exceed it and does not reset with a weekend of sleeping in.
About 35% of American adults sleep less than 7 hours a night. 40% of those get 6 hours or less. In 1942 that number was 11%. We built an entire professional culture around a sleep schedule that this paper says is functionally equivalent to pulling consecutive all-nighters.
"I'm fine on 6 hours" is the most common response to sleep research. The first thing chronic sleep debt destroys is your ability to notice chronic sleep debt.
Physicist Brian Cox reminds us of a truth so profound it’s almost impossible to grasp: we are not just observers of the universe; we are a part of it that has finally woken up.
Every atom in your body; the carbon in your skin, the iron in your blood, the oxygen you breathe; was forged in the intense, ancient furnaces of dying stars. For billions of years, those atoms drifted through the cold void, only to find themselves, by some miracle of cosmic chance, arranged in a pattern that can think, feel, and dream.
As Carl Sagan famously said, we are a way for the cosmos to know itself. We are the means by which a universe of dust and gas suddenly starts writing symphonies, painting masterpieces, and asking where it came from.
It sounds unlikely, perhaps even impossible. But here we are, sitting on a small blue rock, having a conversation about it. And that might be the most extraordinary thing of all.
🚨In 1999, psychologists at Carnegie Mellon 180 couples for six years and discovered something that destroys every piece of relationship advice you've ever heard.
Partners who viewed each other through a lens of future potential maintained 87% relationship satisfaction. Those committed to seeing each other realistically broke up 63% of the time within three years.
The researchers called it the Michelangelo Phenomenon, after the sculptor who claimed he didn't carve David from marble but simply revealed the figure that was already trapped inside the stone.
Think about what this actually means for a moment.
We've been conditioned to believe that healthy relationships require radical acceptance of your partner exactly as they exist today. Relationship experts preach this gospel constantly: love means embracing flaws, accepting limitations, seeing past imperfections to the "real person" underneath.
The data suggests this approach is relationship poison.
Couples who practiced this kind of clear eyed realism were systematically unhappier and far more likely to separate. Meanwhile, partners who maintained what psychologists would normally call "positive illusions" about each other's capabilities created relationships that lasted and thrived.
But calling them illusions misses the point entirely.
The couples with higher satisfaction weren't deluding themselves. They were seeing potential that existed but hadn't been actualized yet. They were recognizing capabilities their partners possessed but hadn't fully developed. They were loving the person their partner could become while simultaneously loving who they were in the present moment.
This creates a feedback loop that traditional relationship psychology doesn't account for.
When someone sees your potential consistently, you start to live into it. When someone believes you're capable of growth you haven't achieved yet, you unconsciously begin moving toward that vision. The "illusion" becomes a prediction that fulfills itself.
The Michelangelo Phenomenon reveals that we become who we think others see us as. In relationships, this effect is amplified because romantic partners occupy an outsized role in shaping our self concept. The version of yourself that your partner consistently sees and responds to gradually becomes the version you inhabit.
Which means choosing a partner is less about finding someone compatible with who you are right now and more about finding someone who can see and nurture who you're capable of becoming. And equally important: becoming someone who can see and call forth the best version of the person you're with.
Most people are walking around as rough marble, waiting for someone to see the sculpture inside.
What do you think?