13 lessons I learned from the brilliant Anne Lamott (on writing, story, and creativity):
1. Shitty first drafts. All good writers write them. This is how they end up with good second drafts and terrific third drafts.
2. Writing is not just jotting ideas down on paper. Writing is about discovery.
3. You get your intuition back when you make space for it, when you stop the chattering of the rational mind.
4. The most important thing about writing is sitting down and doing it every day, and the most important thing about life is just showing up and trying your best to be present every day.
5. A writer paradoxically seeks the truth and tells lies every step of the way.
6. Writing is about hypnotizing yourself into believing in yourself, getting some work done, then unhypnotizing yourself and going over the material coldly.
7. I know some very great writers, writers you love who write beautifully and have made a great deal of money, and not one of them sits down routinely feeling wildly enthusiastic and confident.
8. Good writing is about telling the truth. We are a species that needs and wants to understand who we are.
9. Being a writer gives you an excuse to do everything as research.
10. The most demanding part of living a lifetime as an artist is the strict discipline of forcing oneself to work steadfastly along the nerve of one's own most intimate sensitivity.
11. Writing and reading decrease our sense of isolation. They deepen and widen and expand our sense of life: they feed the soul.
12. Inspiration usually comes during work rather than before it.
13. Writing and reading slow us down. They make us take our time.
Being busy is a form of laziness—lazy thinking and indiscriminate action. Being busy is most often used as a guise for avoiding the few critically important but uncomfortable actions.
“Old George Orwell got it backward. Big Brother isn’t watching. He’s singing and dancing. He’s pulling rabbits out of a hat. Big Brother’s busy holding your attention every moment you’re awake. He’s making sure you’re always distracted. He’s making sure you’re fully absorbed. He’s making sure your imagination withers. Until it’s as useful as your appendix. He’s making sure your attention is always filled. And this being fed, it’s worse than being watched. With the world always filling you, no one has to worry about what’s in your mind. With everyone’s imagination atrophied, no one will ever be a threat to the world.”
— Chuck Palahniuk
So, I spoke to people getting food at a food bank and here are some things I learned from those in need:
1. Everyone donates Kraft Mac and Cheese in the box. They can rarely use it because it needs milk and butter which is hard to get from regular food banks.
2. Boxed milk is a treasure, as kids need it for cereal which they also get a lot of.
3. Everyone donates pasta sauce and spaghetti noodles.
4. They cannot eat all the awesome canned veggies and soup unless you put a can opener in too or buy pop tops.
5. Oil is a luxury but needed for Rice a-Roni which they also get a lot of.
6. Spices or salt and pepper would be a real Christmas gift.
7. Tea bags and coffee make them feel like you care.
8. Sugar and flour are treats.
9. They fawn over fresh produce donated by farmers and grocery stores.
10. Seeds are cool in Spring and Summer because growing can be easy for some.
11. They rarely get fresh meat.
12. Tuna and crackers make a good lunch.
13. Hamburger Helper goes nowhere without ground beef.
14. They get lots of peanut butter and jelly but usually not sandwich bread.
15. Butter or margarine is nice too.
16. Eggs are a real commodity.
17. Cake mix and frosting makes it possible to make a child’s birthday cake.
18. Dishwashing detergent is very expensive and is always appreciated.
19. Feminine hygiene products are a luxury and women will cry over that.
20. Everyone loves Stove Top Stuffing.
In all the years I have donated food at the Holidays, I bought what I thought they wanted, but have never asked. I am glad I did. If you are helping a Family this Christmas, maybe this can help you tailor it more. It does for me!
#SouthwestAirlines unbelievable to leave so many people stranded. Luckily, my travel distance is drivable. Took 9 hours to get from Las Vegas to San Diego. Let's hope SW makes it right for us travelers. Getting rid of my SW points card. Looking into other airline cards.
@mattrife Hey, bought tix for a san diego show, but refunded by the venue. Did it get canceled and are you still coming to SD? huge fan and would love to see you live.