The reason you think your goals are to big & why you are lazy is because you have not been hurt enough. Eventually when your soul undergoes true pain. Excellence becomes the bare minimum to able to live with the curse of your experience
The greatest error in judging people is treating your first impression as a verdict rather than a probability. Charm, confidence, warmth, and status can increase trust too quickly. Let repeated behaviour update the estimate. Character becomes clearer as the person pays real costs and gains real opportunities to betray you.
Most interactions are repeated games, not one-time events, which means people are constantly updating their strategy based on your previous behaviour, and if you tolerate something once, you have effectively trained the other side to expect it again.
Every self-respecting man reaches a point in his life where he grows so disgusted by his own unfulfilled potential.
He realizes his stress is not a byproduct of the work, but the work he failed to do. The sleep lost was not from the risk taken, but the opportunity he bypassed. The anxiety was not at all pathological, but a divine signal of what he was capable of all along.
The problem is as timeless as the antidote: It is the discomfort. It is the boredom. It is the immunity to uncertainty.
It is the work.
Most men overestimate how much effort ambition requires and underestimate how much consistency it requires, because effort can be temporary, but excellence demands repeated alignment of behaviour over time, especially when there is no immediate reward.
If your ambition does not make your life more difficult in the short term, it is not real ambition, because meaningful progress requires sacrificing comfort, certainty, and approval, and without those trade-offs, you are simply maintaining your current level.
Money is insanely weird. Money enables & reaffirms so much idiocy. Sometimes it is scary. You could be a premium kind of fool yet be deceived by your own ego that you are great and have the cash proof to back it up
@Iam_benn11@manliketine420@YemiMujeeb Peer pressure and influence from a girlfriend or boyfriend is very real. The paradigms of human psychology is deeper than"is it by force" you inevitably become who you hang out with. Being around women too much without any grounding can make any young man gay
@manliketine420@YemiMujeeb Yes it's sad to see and sometimes guys do the same to girls. Make her smoke or do drugs or sleep around. As long as it was "their choice" and "it's not their sister". We have lost a very deep sense of communal society and morality
You only become strong when you accept you don't deserve mercy from others. When it's your time to suffer, bear it and when it's thier time, never stop hammering
First they will passionately hate you. Regret knowing you then you will become great, greater than their opinion that eventually turns to admiration and false love.
Most men never make it out of the first stage.