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[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

@Nedumooree We can argue this in DMs if you don't mind.

[Joseph Brendan @Joe_brendan_]

I will not tell anyone how they choose to see life or the country in general

But what I deliberately do is, I don't allow doom lovers around me. I will start by always changing the discussion but if you keep pushing, one day I will tell you to stop calling or texting me

Doom is addictive.
When someone wants to always see doom, you cannot save them. Everything will be impossible and doomsy to them

Me : Let's start supplying diesel to businesses. After a year we buy our own tankers, for now, let's lease tankers

Dooms Lover : In this country? you want to supply diesel? who has money to buy diesel? what if govt. bans diesel supply? nothing works in this country. I will send you a report that said 1billion diesel businesses closed last month alone. "you only need connection to suply diesel"

Me : Tell your brother to apply for that GT at Seplat.

Dooms Lover : I cannot ask him to waste his time. In this country? Its by who you know. You cannot get a Job at Seplat if you are a nobody

Me : Let's do a money making challenge. 100 days to make at least 100k USD

Dooms Lover : That cannot be possible in Nigeria. with which light? with which internet? Elon Musk had rich parents. Mr Eazi had rich parents. In this life nobody make money like that. they had support from parents

I always cut them off with no questions asked.
If you only dissect ideas negatively, you are out of my circle. One time.

If you always believe you can never be anything or you are held down by any force, I can never be around you. drink your negativity

[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

@Benn_X1 We are not ready to move forward.
Hypocrisy disguised as culture will never sit well with me. Hardly will you see Adults in this clime who are honest with each other. Maybe I will understand them someday or not.

[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

A few compromises here and there and before you know it, you find yourself wondering how you became the very thing you once h8td.

[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

@UnderCartel1 @ajakk03 Got mine today around 325-330k with logistics.
Although without panel.

[Reads with Ravi @readswithravi]

Marcus Aurelius wrote this over 1800 years ago:

“Do not disturb yourself by imagining your whole life at once.”

[Fred @Fedrickkkkkk]

2019. I can’t eat until it’s 4pm because I can only afford one meal for the day.

Now I can eat what I like and whenever I want.

Money will always come. Things will surely get better.

[Jerry Z @UkeJerry]

Just survive, stay true to yourself and those you love, and never lose yourself.

[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

This feeling of working on a node js project that solves real world problems. How bad can it get?

[Restoring Your Faith in Humanity @HumanityChad]

Sometimes getting out of rock bottom depends on who is with you.

[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

@OPay_NG Hello @OPay_NG, please I’d like to discuss an issue privately. Kindly let me know the best way to reach you. Thank you.

[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

@KosafeJunior @chudy_jnr True but I I will be on the other side on the aspect of guilt.
Didn't seem guilty to me he was weary an done with the whole thing, lived by himself for years. He was just strategic in his exit.

[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

@luqmanola60 ReactQuery?
Know it well but I am still stuck with useEffect the project is way too large.

[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

@KosafeJunior @chudy_jnr His death was strategic and every bit intentional. Infact that's why we saw the conquest of Ivar.

[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

@timmietech Code Evolution has something on his channel.

[Saber.eth | Blockchain Developer⚡ @Sabercodes123]

You learn a tech skill.
You practice with mock projects.
You build real things.
You ship a portfolio.

You take internships or unpaid work.
You cold pitch.
You land small gigs.
You earn trust.

You collect testimonials.
You build a personal brand.
You become visible.

Then the bigger opportunities find you.

Tech isn’t a get-rich-quick game.
It’s a long process.
Don’t rush it.

[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

@KharayKrayKray It rob you off your grit.
Even the easiest of tasks now seem impossible to such mind.

[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

@animalologist True but the room for self reflection shouldn't be left out. I can almost guarantee a better decision next time. Imagine not signing papers because you're dealing with a pal from way back.

To sum it all taking the blame is also a good way of preventing future errors!

[Abhishek Singh @0xlelouch_]

I’ve seen this play out very clearly with someone I worked with early in my career.

He was a junior engineer, and in his first few months he got openly blamed by his manager for “not performing well enough.” Missed expectations, unclear updates, work that technically got done but didn’t inspire confidence. A lot of people in that position would’ve written the manager off as unfair, blamed the onboarding, or mentally checked out.

He didn’t.

He took it painfully personally in the most productive way possible. He didn’t argue. He didn’t defend himself. He went back and asked a harder question: “If this keeps happening, what part of this is actually under my control?”

He realized the problem wasn’t just code quality. It was communication. His manager couldn’t see progress early enough. His design thinking wasn’t explicit. He waited too long to ask questions. He assumed silence meant approval.

So he changed everything he could control.

He started over-communicating. Daily updates, even when nothing was “done.” He wrote short design notes before implementing. He asked for feedback early, sometimes uncomfortably early. He practiced explaining trade-offs instead of just shipping code. He made sure his manager never had to guess what he was doing or why.

Six months later, he was effectively operating at a senior level.

Not because he suddenly became 10x smarter, but because he eliminated ambiguity around his work. His manager trusted him. Other engineers looped him in. He became the person people went to because he reduced uncertainty, not because he wrote the fanciest code.

What stood out to me was how fast it happened once he internalized responsibility. The blame didn’t crush him. It focused him. He treated feedback, even poorly delivered feedback, as signal.

That giant locus of control is a cheat code. You don’t waste energy arguing about fairness. You spend it upgrading your inputs, your communication, and your decision-making. And over time, people stop blaming you not because they’re nicer, but because there’s nothing left to blame.

[Jfresh @Jfreshng]

@Tope_Orus Well the missing piece is structure.
Standard White-collar job provides this!