Ever since I was a little boy, I knew I wanted to log into Microsoft Authenticator 35 times a day, create deliverables for key stakeholders, and circle back offline.
Btw did you ever take any accountability for what you and your little friends tried to do to Maraga? Ama you just deleted the tweets after it backfired?
There’s a certain type of privacy & alone time I require in order for me to feel like I’m still functioning and operating as an individual. I cannot do the codependency or enmeshment.
In Feng Shui, your family of origin is your 'ancestral estate.' If your parents didn't pave the way or teach you survival skills, it’s like they gave you an 'energy-leaking' or 'barren' plot. In such soil, sprouting late and growing slowly is basic physics. Now they stand in the mud and judge you for not growing as fast as those in 'fertile estates.' In Feng Shui, this is called 'Yin energy suffocating Yang' (a toxic field stunting a good seed). The solution is simple: 'Move out.' Since the ancestral Feng Shui doesn't nourish you, mentally and physically 'sever the tie.' Don't demand a harvest from barren land; go out, find your own dragon vein, and build an 'energy-gathering layout' that actually works for you.
Gen Z realizing one of the biggest shocks after college is that life no longer happens around you.
In school, friends, events, relationships, and opportunities are built into your environment.
As an adult, if you don't actively create a social life, weeks can turn into months surprisingly fast.
So, collapse your emotions, good or bad about the 2 presidents. This is a masterclass in strategic communications by Cyril Ramaphosa. He doesn't mention Ruto or his decision to bend to the USA on Ebola. He doesn't criticize the decision but instead, expertly demonstrates a better strategy deployed by RSA. He doesn't need to say "We are concerned that Kenya blah blah blah." But with Ruto standing right there he gives case studies of South Africa's pan African response to Ebola - financial investment, sharing expertise and must importantly, protecting those on African soil from the pandemic. The opposite of what Kenya is doing. And he highlighted this contrast emphatically by focusing on what RSA is doing. Nice example for a strategic comms lecturer to use. How do you expose a disagreement without saying "You are wrong and I disapprove of your methods." Nice.
i believe in re-reading and re-watching your favourite books & movies at different stages of your life. the plot never changes, but your perspective does.
Had a wealthy friend tell me that the ability to decrease time to any outcome is the one skill behind every successful person he knows.
A few I apply constantly:
- Decreasing the time it takes you to get out of a bad state will make you emotionally resilient
- Decreasing the time it takes you to go from idea to executive will make you wealthy
- Decreasing the time it takes you to turn a failure into a lesson will thicken your skin faster than anything else
Game theory explains why forgiving someone who has not paid a cost for betraying you is a vicious mistake dressed up as a virtue. Forgiveness without consequence never 'resets' the relationship. It updates the other person's model of your response function.
You now taught them that betrayal costs nothing. So, the next defection is cheaper than the first one. You have effectively lowered the price of breaking your trust.
Genuine repair requires that the cost of defection be visible and proportional before the relationship resumes. Everything else is an invitation to defection.