“Dicen que no encajo en este mundo.
Francamente, considero esos comentarios un halago. ¿Quién diablos quiere encajar en estos tiempos?”.
~ Billy Wilder.
* Sé Viktor Frankl
* Sobrevivió a 4 campos de concentración nazis
* Perdió a su esposa, a sus padres y a su hermano
* Le quitaron todo excepto una cosa
* Su capacidad de elegir cómo responder
* Observó que algunos prisioneros compartían su último trozo de pan
* Descubrió que el sufrimiento sin sentido destruye
* Pero el sufrimiento con propósito transforma
* Escribió un libro que ha vendido millones de copias
* Ayudó a crear la logoterapia
* Enseñó que la búsqueda de sentido es una necesidad humana básica
* Defendió que entre el estímulo y la respuesta existe un espacio
* Y que en ese espacio reside nuestra libertad
* Dio conferencias por todo el mundo hasta los 90 años
* Nunca permitió que el horror definiera su identidad
* Transformó una tragedia inimaginable en una filosofía para vivir
Y Viktor Frankl sigue enseñando algo que la mayoría olvida:
No siempre puedes elegir lo que te ocurre.
Pero siempre puedes elegir quién te conviertes a partir de ello.
Viktor Frankl es impresionante.
"La solitude est dangereuse. Elle est très addictive. Elle devient une habitude après que vous ayez réalisé à quel point elle est calme et paisible. C'est comme si vous ne vouliez plus avoir affaire aux gens parce qu'ils vous épuisent."
Jim Carrey
"Ma philosophie est : ce que les gens disent de moi ne me regarde pas.
Je suis qui je suis et je fais ce que je fais.
Je n'attends rien et j'accepte tout.
Et cela rend la vie plus facile.
Nous vivons dans un monde où les funérailles sont plus importantes que les défunts, le mariage est plus important que l'amour, l'apparence est plus importante que l'âme.
Nous vivons dans une culture de l'emballage qui méprise le contenu."
Anthony Hopkins
Acı gerçek şu ki…
Barışçıl bir insan bile gerektiğinde şiddetin ne olduğunu bilmeli. Aksi halde sahip olduğu huzur, onu tehdit eden kişinin insafına kalır.
Miyamoto Musashi
Jordan Peterson on why imposter syndrome is not the problem you think it is:
1. feeling like an imposter is actually a marker of mental health and competence. the people who do not feel it are the narcissists. if you have any sense and you are not deluded about your abilities you will feel some version of this every time you level up. peterson says the absence of imposter syndrome should concern you more than its presence.
2. every time you move up you will feel like an imposter. that is not a flaw. it is accurate. when you first enter a new role you are a beginner. you do not know what you are doing yet. feeling like an imposter at that stage is not a sign of weakness. it is a sign that you have enough self awareness to recognize the gap between where you are and where you need to be.
3. admitting ignorance to competent people never goes badly. people are afraid to ask questions because they think they are the only one in the room who does not know. they are not. if you were paying attention and you had a question the probability that half the room had the same question is very high. you only have to ask a stupid question once. after that you are no longer stupid about it.
4. intellectual humility is endearing to people who are actually good at what they do. competent people are always asking questions too because they know how much they do not know. when they see you asking questions they do not think you are incompetent. they think you probably are competent.
5. there is a darker version of imposter syndrome called imposter adaptation. hedonic adaptation is where happiness resets after good things happen. imposter adaptation is where the feeling of being a fraud persists no matter how many times you disprove it. you keep succeeding. the feeling keeps returning. at some point you have to admit the feeling has nothing to do with your actual capacity and everything to do with an addiction to feeling like an imposter.
6. high neuroticism makes this significantly worse. neuroticism is sensitivity to threat and punishment. people high in this trait need more evidence to feel safe and competent. the calibration problem is nearly impossible. you wake up with an ache in your side. is it nothing or is it cancer. most of the time it is nothing. the neurotic brain cannot easily tell the difference and applies the same logic to professional competence.
7. the only treatment that actually works is voluntary exposure to the things you are afraid of. you keep facing challenges. you keep paying attention. you develop competence. the environment becomes more predictable. the evidence accumulates. the people around you build confidence in you and that confidence reflects back. there is no shortcut. that is the pathway.
“ Etre différent n'est ni une bonne chose ni une mauvaise chose. Cela signifie simplement que vous êtes suffisamment courageux pour être vous-même. ”
- Albert Camus
"La mort de l'empathie humaine est l'un des premiers signes et le plus révélateur d'une culture sur le point de sombrer dans la barbarie."
Hannah Arendt