Discipline is not glamorous, yet it is the root of every form of power, because without the ability to govern yourself, you will inevitably be governed by cravings, distractions, or manipulations designed by others who understand your weaknesses better than you.
People who cannot create value often try to create emotional debt. They remind you what they suffered, what they gave, what they meant, what they hoped you would notice. Be careful. Guilt is often the currency of people who have no leverage left.