I doubt they even understand themselves. They crave and want connection but are always uncomfortable with emotional dependency and vulnerability.. for your sanity don’t try to understand them.
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One of the greatest gifts you can ever give yourself, is that of humility and the daily death of your ego enough to see yourself as human - flawed, sometimes wrong, capable of harm - and capable of growth, and change.
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
Are we not too young to be dealing with the kind of messy relationship stress we face today?
It’s crazy to think that there are so many people genuinely looking for love and a meaningful relationship, yet they keep ending up in the wrong ones. They get hurt over and over again to the point of complete exhaustion, but somehow, they still haven’t given up on finding the right person.
One uncomfortable truth we need to accept is that not everyone is going to get married.
Some people have character traits, habits, and lifestyles that make them extremely difficult to live with, yet they still desperately want marriage because society has convinced them that it is a mandatory life achievement. The reality is that wanting marriage and being a good partner are not always the same thing.
There is also another reality many people avoid discussing: not everyone will find a life partner. Have you ever thought about that? Especially for women, what if no one eventually marries you? Sometimes it has nothing to do with being a good or bad person. Life simply doesn't work out that way for everyone.
This is why financial independence is so important, especially for women. Build your career, create wealth, and establish stability for yourself. If you desire children and marriage doesn't happen, there are still options available to you. Your entire future should not be dependent on whether someone chooses to marry you.
We need to normalize the fact that marriage is not guaranteed for everyone. Being unmarried is not a sign of failure, irresponsibility, or a wasted life. A person's value should never be measured by their marital status.
The desire for intimacy has to be matched by an admittance of the ugliness of vulnerability. Especially of the parts of yourself that you never have to confront when you engage at the shallow end
Luck flows through people and travels by conversation. The people you talk to determine the opportunities you find.
Keep talking to the same people, keep finding the same opportunities. Start talking to new people, start finding new opportunities.
If you want different luck, start walking into different rooms."
James clear
The same recruitment team that found Lammens when nobody was looking. The same data team that picked Šeško over Gyökeres and everyone else being thrown around.
These are not online tacticos like yourself.
Éderson is 26, proven, consistent, barely injured across 3 seasons in one of the most demanding systems in Europe. This is exactly the signing you make in a summer where you need depth and reliability, not noise.
But some of you want United to open every window with a €100m signing. You know what that does? It inflates the market. Suddenly every club knows United are coming with big money and every fee goes up.
Smart clubs don't work like that.
You don't watch Serie A. You haven't tracked his numbers. You just know he's not the flashy name you had in your head so he must be a downgrade.
This is football business. Not a FIFA career mode. Wake up.
As soon as Éderson puts that United shirt on, I'm backing him like I do with any new signing. I understand the skepticism, but all we can do now is wish him well now that he's joined. We still have the whole summer ahead and he won't be the only midfielder signing. Onto the next.
They are all aligned, I don't know why people think this is briefed info. There's a whole process internally, months prior to when it gets leaked to the media that we are targeting a player, which include countless recruitment meetings alongside the data team.
Does Wilcox like Éderson - 100% for sure and I know this is as a fact, but so do Vivell and Sansoni. One figure could recommend a player but they will only pursue that target if the whole team is aligned.
During the target identification stage, Wilcox is barely involved. Our team of data analysts and scientists build profile of players we are looking at where they'll look at all the metrics and define the tactical need. We will never go for a player solely down to data - there would've been tons of research via video and physical scouting.
There is so much to it not even including the background and then financial checks.