Autism: I need people to say exactly what they mean.
ADHD: I need people to get to the point.
AuDHD: I need people to say exactly what they mean and say it faster
The victim of narcissistic abuse is often the one who looks emotional, overwhelmed, or "out of control." The narcissist stays calm and collected, using that contrast to convince others that they're the reasonable one
woman to woman: for your own sanity, always take inconsistency as a no.
If they wanted to, you’d know. If they’re interested, you’ll feel it. Mixed signals are usually your answer.
ADHD isn't a disorder.
It's a nervous system built for a world that doesn't really exist anymore.
Think about it:
Your ADHD brain is naturally wired to:
Hyperfocus when something feels urgent or high-stakes
Constantly scan your surroundings for what's happening
Switch attention quickly when something more important shows up
Thousands of years ago, those traits were useful for survival.
The modern world asks for the exact opposite:
Sit in one place for hours
Focus on one task at a time
Ignore everything happening around you
Do repetitive work without an immediate reward
So what happens?
A brain that was built to adapt gets treated like it's malfunctioning.
Then you grow up believing you're lazy, careless, unmotivated, or just not trying hard enough.
This mental shift is about finally letting go of that shame.
That's the first step.
The next step is learning how to work with your ADHD brain instead of constantly fighting against it.
Because the problem was never that you were failing at life.
You were following instructions that were never written for the way your brain works.
Which part hits home for you?
How exactly are autistic/ADHD people meant to find a soulmate? Half the time we're either avoiding people, forgetting to text back, or accidentally turning every conversation into a TED Talk.
knew relationships weren't for me when i realised clingy ones bring out my avoidant side and avoidants bring out my clingy side but they were clingy bc i was an avoidant and I was anxious bc they were avoidants