I realize non living things spoil people's lives like procrastinating, lying, laziness, lust, low esteem, indecisive.
At the same time non living things elevate lives; priority yourself, discipline, talent, puting yourself out, fail and trying again.
Work on what works for you
Guy to guy,
You see what ODUMODU is doing? That’s exactly what you should not do to prove you love a woman. Internet or not, it is shameful.
Women want you to humiliate yourself in the name of “love” because that is how they process love, whether they deserve it or not—especially when they don’t.
In the end, after you humiliate yourself to prove you love her, she sees you as weak and will resent and punish you for it. It is law.
Don’t let any woman lie to you.
Whatever you are as a man, do not be an aristoto like ODUMODU.
If you’re between 25-35 and you have no stable source of income, you really need to sit yourself down and figure things out. You can’t keep calling people every time you need urgent money or waiting for someone to rescue you. Life is getting too expensive for that.
Let me tell you why you go back to porn and masturbation after quitting for several days or even weeks.
A lot of Christians make the mistake of thinking that once they stop watching porn or masturbating, the battle is over.
But you stopped the behaviour without necessarily changing the pattern that was producing the behaviour.
And this is where the mind comes in.
Just the same way a disc stores data, the mind also stores information.
Every time you watch a pornographic image or masturbate, your mind takes record of that activity.
So when certain triggers show up, your mind can bring those old patterns back.
And sometimes those triggers are HALT:
H — Hungry
A — Angry
L — Lonely
T — Tired.
You feel lonely, you’re tired, you’re stressed, and your mind remembers what you’ve previously used to give yourself temporary pleasure or relief.
And before you know it, you’re back in the cycle.
So stopping porn for seven days, thirty days, or three months isn’t the entire goal.
Because if all you did was stop the behaviour while leaving the mind unchanged, the pattern is still there.
That’s why Romans 12:2 says:
“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
Transformation doesn’t happen simply because you stopped masturbating.
It happens as your mind is continually renewed.
So when I talk to someone struggling, I don’t only ask, “When was the last time you watched porn?”
I want to know:
When was the last time you read your Bible?
When was the last time you prayed?
Because you have to intentionally renew your mind.
Instead of being idle, pick up the Bible.
Instead of doomscrolling, pray.
Instead of constantly feeding the flesh, feed your spirit.
And if you’re going to do a 30-day challenge, don’t make it another useless “No Fap” challenge.
Why not a No Phone challenge?
Why not commit to reading your Bible and praying consistently for 30 days?
Because the goal isn’t simply to stop watching porn.
The goal is to renew your mind.
When you jerk off all the time
You don't feel motivated to do anything
Because your dopamine system is FRIED
You crave for something that gives you more excitement
You need at least 60 days for it to get back to normal
#nofap#semenretention
na before if you de go through a lot you go de hide am make people no clock am.
bro this period if you de go through a lot,better craze come outside make them help you. 😂