A large part of human conflict comes from wounded vanity, not real harm, so before reacting to disrespect, ask whether your position was actually threatened or whether your ego simply felt smaller, because learning to ignore minor blows will save you from major mistakes.
Playing dumb will show you how wicked people really are, but once you cut the act and turn out smarter than they expected, it really PISSES people off.
Sex hits better when you're relaxed
Conversations hit better when you're relaxed.
Money feels special when you're relaxed.
Sleep feels deep when you're relaxed.
Food tastes better when you're relaxed.
Anxiety fades when you're relaxed.
Depression disappear when you're relaxed.
Wins come faster when you're relaxed.
Luck finds you when you're relaxed.
Everything makes sense when you're relaxed.
Learn how to relax. No matter what you're going through.
Nothing kills a man faster than the weight of his own thoughts. Stay calm. Please don't stress over things that are out of your control.
People are so complex. the scariest thing is that they sit at your table, eat with you, admire you, laugh with you, and still aren't REAL with you. Limiting people's access to you is self-care.
This sentence from Carl Jung hits hard.
“No matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel, if you do your work truly and conscientiously, unknown friends will come and seek you.”
Normalize being very direct, very straight to the point and very assertive. A surprising amount of tension in adult life exist because people avoid saying what they actually mean.
The fastest way to detect manipulation is to watch for people who push urgency without giving you time to think, so build a rule where you never agree to important decisions in the same moment they are presented, because time pressure is often used to bypass your judgment.
There’s a Japanese saying that I love:
“If you feel like you’re losing everything, remember, trees lose their leaves every year, yet they still stand tall and wait for better days to come.”