just because you have a meltdown every now and again and cry for no reason and feel lonely sometimes, doesn’t mean you aren’t a strong person. believe me, you are.
To train for circus, baby elephants are roped to a stake. They try to get away but are too weak, eventually giving up. That’s what they remember. When they grow up, they remain passive, never trying to get away when they have a rope around their neck. What rope are you tied to?