And no one ever talks about how hard it is to be grateful and sad at the same time. You’re going through something but still aware of how blessed you are. That constant shift in perspective is exhausting in itself.
To fall in love with a man I have to be inspired by him — be motivated by his hustle and dedication, admire his humility, adore his compassion, respect the way he sets boundaries, commend his leadership. I want to be in awe of the man he is.
LAZINESS can kill a relationship. no, you’re not CHEATING. but there’s also NO FLOWERS, no SURPRISES, no APPRECIATION posts, no SWEET MESSAGES, no DATES (unless your s/o practically BEGS for them). so yes, the truth is LAZINESS can SLOWLY kill LOVE. sometimes, simply being LOYAL just isn’t ENOUGH
i can always tell when someone likes me more as an accessory vs an actual person because the moment i go off script it's a problem. i'm not being valued for my authenticity but only my ability to placate you.
No one talks enough about how exhausting it is for a woman to continuously give grace to a man. Too often, that grace comes at the expense of her own needs, her boundaries, and her peace. What starts as love slowly turns into self abandonment.
i think when you’re transitioning from being a people pleaser to someone with more boundaries it’s so weird, because it’s hard to tell if you’re being mean or if you’re just listening to your own feelings because you’re so used to this and only thinking about others.