Ignoring your woman’s needs and still expecting a healthy relationship is like skipping maintenance on your car and expecting it to run forever. Sooner or later, it breaks down.
I want a family where my kids can clearly see how much their father loves me. I want them to damn near be like "Ew, why you always touching on momma." Or "Mom is so spoiled." And "You know how daddy is about our mom." even when we're old and gray. That's the ultimate to me.