Kévin

Solitude as strength. Thought as practice. Creation as contribution.”

[Kévin @Kevin77956]

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[Kévin @Kevin77956]

@iamdisplacement So true

[Hector Castillo @hekkycastillo]

Women do respond to primal behaviors from men. Simple thinks like talking louder, talking clearer, and big movements like hugging friends, touching people, etc.

But it's not so simple as that. While these behaviors do trigger "strong man who will bend me over" reactions that DO TURN WOMEN ON...there's some nuance to all of this.

Firstly, being too boisterous and loud and big CAN be taken too far and go from "big confident guy" to "guy who is trying too hard," which is the opposite of confident.

Men expose their insecurities like this when they go from being fun and confident to rude and demeaning to others (including her). This "pops" the illusion and they go "okay, i was having fun a moment ago but now he's actually just being annoying" then this new perspective starts to color your behaviors differently. You've probably had this happen to you in platonic contexts...you meet a guy who's cool and funny at first, but then his "act" becomes annoying. He's a one-trick pony and you realize he has no other substance to his personality other than what he's currently doing (making offensive jokes, being sexual, etc.).

This is what some people are intuitively aware of when they criticize some men's dating advice as being "fake." They sense that any advice peddling "do X to attract women" is suspicious because it's not that simple and one-dimensional behaviors are...well...one-dimensional.

They're 50% correct. They're correct in the fact that you need to be well-rounded (NOT one-dimensional), but they're incorrect that you should never ever change who you are, because by definition to become the best version of yourself you need to change....yourself (which is often what they argue against, because they're stubborn and lazy and dumb).

So, how do we resolve this problem? How do we behave in attractive ways but without being dumb cavemen? Or is attraction TRULY so primal and primitive?

It's not, luckily. If it was, we'd live in a very different world.

Some men THINK we live in that world (the black and red pillers).

They see a world where big, high status, good looking powerful men rule everything.

But they are

1. really not smart
2. losers who really haven't seen much of the world

The 1000IQ perspective is to recognize that primal attractors (looks, size, status, etc.) ARE effective, but are NOT the endgame and that non-verbal charisma, conversational skill, and higher values like wisdom and generosity and conviction can trump any primal advantage if done properly.

However, the men out there who are representing the power of these traits are pretty rare.

Why?

Because most people aren't trying or smart enough to figure out these harder to master skills.

And those people who are good at them aren't world famous. They're random dudes...bartenders, car salesman, bouncers, artists, academics, etc.

Meeting these people requires you to go outside and experience life, especially with groups you're not usually comfortable hanging out with. This is what I mean by #2, the losers who have not seen much of the world, making incorrect judgments about the state of dating and how attraction works. Their evaluations are limited.

But most people, even those who explore, are just not very smart. They don't see the nuances. And funnily enough, and this is really something...the people who ARE the exceptions, the charismatic artist or academic...they still fall prey to the primal thinking of "bigger faster stronger" always winning. I've seen one of the best artistic suave guys I know still be nervous and meek around my super gigachad alpha friend...when in fact, that artist guy gets 5x more girls than the gigachad friend. Objectively in every criteria he's 5x more successful. Maybe MORE. He doesn't "realize his own power" sort of situation. He's also emotionally unstable. And yet despite being a victim of his own flaws, when he's at his best, he's the light of the room, a man with no status or money or prestige and he was able to climb the social ladder of his country through pure charisma and good energy...and then seduce one of the most famous girls in the country, despite being a no name (even while being in those circles, he had no external status, only the good word of others in the group). And it's only once he's had the opportunity to rub shoulders with the "elite" of his country (who are no different than the elite of any country) that he's beginning to see the absolute mindboggling stupidity of this primal hierarchy of "whoever is the most rich and powerful wins the best girls," because that's NOT how it works....because being the most rich or powerful or good looking or prestigious (WHATEVER "value" you want to put in here, put it in here) doesn't actually make you BETTER. It has SOME power, but it's not ABSOLUTE. And you can PROVE this by going INTO these circles and just have good social skills, NOT be intimidated by these primal virtues, and then still "win." But it's only after experiencing time in the world is he able to see past the illusion. His mind is able to see the patterns. He's not even totally super aware of it when we talk about these dynamics but he's slowly seeing it all.

So when I say most people are "not very smart,' this is what I mean. Even the people who are at the top don't even know how it works. They can't draw lines of nuance to see "power and status and looks are good to this extent and in this context, but here is where charisma and conversational skills and wisdom can triumph over any of those and in far more situations."

So, now circling back to my original point, WHY are primal attractors like being loud and boisterous effective and why are they not?

They're effective because they SIGNAL something attractive. But if taken too far, they signal the OPPOSITE of what they were signaling before. I'll put it super simply.

Loud guy -> signaling "i'm not afraid and I express myself"

This is a masculine characteristic and thus inherently attractive to women.

Loud guy who does it too much and has no depth to him -> signaling "i'm TRYING To appear not afraid but I am actually because I won't STFU and relax."

This is an UNmasculine characteristic and thus inherently unattractive to women.

To see this more clearly, we go deeper.

WHY is loud = not afraid?

Because being loud is the opposite of being quiet, and quiet, A LOT OF TIMES, signals "afraid."

And many times, this is TRUE. The quiet guy isn't some mysterious deep entity of cosmic wisdom...he's just a shy awkward loser. So the "stereotype" that quietness signals is pretty spot on a lot of times.

But social interaction is deeper than this. You can look at someone who is quiet and see if they're comfortable or not. They SIGNAL or COMMUNICATE the truth non-verbally and a keen, discerning eye can tell the difference.

Quiet + comfortable = quiet for NOT fearful reason

quiet + uncomfortable = quiet for FEARFUL reason

And this can even be taken deeper. Even if someone seems upset and quiet, it could be because they're dealing with something...not because they're socially awkward or nervous about the CURRENT situation.

But most people's analytical eye or intuition can't see this all instantly...it takes a while.

That's why the loud boisterous guy isn't immediately seen as secretly unconfident unless the person watching is very keen. It takes time for the pattern to emerge and the truth to be revealed.

So what's the ACTUAL thing that's attracting the woman???

It's

1. NON-nervousness towards HER and/or OTHERS.
2. Conviction in one's beliefs (you talk with confidence about what you say/believe)
3. Fun energy (love of life/positivity)

The non-nervousness CAN be signaled through being loud. If loud = not nervous. But as we found out, it's more nuanced than that. loud can actually signal the opposite,but it's USUALLY a safe bet that loud = not nervous. see how this isn't necessarily a "positive" signal like confidence is, but a NON-negative? do you see the distinction? non nervousness isn't necessarily penetrative and masculine, but it CAN signal it...it's like a "? maybe he has big dick energy?" signal. and if probe deeper and revealed to be strong masculine stoic energy, THEN it creates lust. a strong stillness IS masculine energy and lust inducing. But if it's revealed to be nervousness/fear, it can cause a lack of attraction.

Whereas being loud can ALSO signal conviction in one's beliefs. when you talk, you don't just blow hot air. you say what you believe. this is also a male trait that is attractive. this is a PLUS charged thing. it's a "forward" energy rather than a "not negative" energy. Having conviction is masculine and therefore lust inducing in women. it creates sexual attraction to them because men are external/penetrative and women are internal/receptive. but if it's revealed your loudness isn't confidence but the COVERING of insecurity, then it will have a DOUBLE negative effect, because it's dishonest AND non-masculine.

And fun energy is ALSO expressed in being loud and smiling and hugging people. fun energy is a universal human attractor. it's neither masculine nor feminine, but it's still attractive overall. it's a "positive" energy.

So is attracting some primal animalistic? Obviously NOT. But the surface behaviors we watch CAN be very primal/animalistic.

But the qualities actually doing the attracting deep down...are anything but.

Use your brain, look deeper, and you'll understand what' s really going on, not what your monkey brain THINKS is going on.

[Reads with Ravi @readswithravi]

“You escape competition through authenticity.”

— Naval Ravikant

[The Master Builder @KingsProtocol]

Attraction starts with presence.
And nothing shapes presence more than the body.
Fit posture. Clear skin. Steady eyes.
You don’t have to be a model. Just be disciplined.

80% of attraction is energy.
And your energy changes the moment you’re in shape.
You move cleaner. You speak sharper.
People respect what you had to overcome.

No one needs to know your routine.
Let your physique speak for you.
Let your walk tell the story.
Let your glow say you’ve arrived.

– The Master Builder @KingsProtocol

[Shubhvani @shubhvanii]

The taller you are, the more seriously they take you,

The quieter you are, the more they fear what you're thinking

The deeper your voice, the more weight your words carry.

The more muscle you build, the less they dare to test you

RESPECT ISN'T GIVEN, IT'S ENGINEERED.

[Navalism @NavalismHQ]

Fast, lift, sprint, stretch, and meditate.

Build, sell, write, create, invest, and own.

Read, reflect, love, seek truth, and ignore society.

Make these habits. Say no to ETH else.

Avoid debt, jail, addiction, disgrace, shortcuts, and media.

Relax.
Victory is assured.
@naval

[Metabolic Uncle @MetabolicUncle]

TESTOSTERONE AND ISOMETRIC HOLDS

Testosterone drops 1-2% yearly after 30. That's just what happens. But here's something most people miss: grip strength correlates directly with testosterone levels.

Men who can hang from a bar for over 60 seconds show testosterone levels 23% higher than those who tap out at 30 seconds. This isn't random. It's your mechanoreceptors talking to your hypothalamus.

Isometric holds create acute testosterone spikes that last up to 48 hours. No injections. No complicated protocols. Just targeted pressure on the right systems.

FOUNDATION GRIPPERS

Your hands contain the highest concentration of mechanoreceptors in your body. These specialized sensory neurons detect mechanical pressure and send signals directly to your hypothalamus, which controls testosterone production. When you grip intensely, you're activating a direct neural pathway to your hormone centers.

The dead hang establishes this connection. Grab a pull-up bar with an overhand grip, lift your feet off the ground, and hang. Start wherever you can, even if it's just 15 seconds. Work toward 60 seconds, which is where the research shows peak testosterone benefits occur.

As you hang, every muscle fiber in your hands, forearms, and shoulders fires maximally. The spinal decompression combined with maximum grip challenge creates full-body neural activation.

Your grip will fail first. That's the point. When your hands fatigue and you're fighting to maintain your hold, you're pushing your mechanoreceptors to their maximum threshold. That's when the hormone production triggers.

Don't use momentum to start. Step off a box with control. Use a full overhand grip with thumbs wrapped around the bar for maximum surface contact. Never use straps or grip aids because they reduce the neural demand on your hands.

Track your hang time weekly. When you can consistently hang for 60 seconds with good form, you've hit the research-backed threshold.

The farmer's walk hold amplifies what the dead hang established. Hold two heavy objects at your sides with a crushing grip for 60-90 seconds. Dumbbells, kettlebells, water jugs, whatever you have. Shoulders back, core engaged, every finger wrapped tightly around the weight.

This combines the grip testosterone pathway with full-body postural strength. The weight creates constant tension through your traps, core, and stabilizers while your grip works overtime. The upright position promotes optimal hormone circulation. The bilateral grip challenge doubles the mechanoreceptor activation compared to single-side exercises.

Your knuckles should be white. Your forearms should burn. Your grip should be on the verge of failure by the end of each set. This maximum neural drive triggers the testosterone response that can last up to 48 hours post-exercise.

These two foundation grippers work together. The dead hang establishes pure grip endurance and neural activation. The farmer's walk hold adds full-body stability and postural strength.

[GehGeh @official_Gegeh]

You m@sturbate all day and wonder why she is not attracted to you.

Women can sense whether a man m@sturbates or not.

M@sturbation makes you weak, lowers your self-esteem, slows muscle growth.

Stop watching p*rn otherwise, you'll stay in that PATHETIC state forever.

[Kévin @Kevin77956]

@shubhvanii Bb

[Kévin @Kevin77956]

“Some nights feel like your soul is walking through a battlefield with no armor.

The silence gets loud.
The thoughts get heavy.

But if you don’t run…
the darkness teaches you how to see.”

[Philosophy of Ages @PhilosophyAges]

Motivation V/S Discipline

[JWaller7 @Waller7J]

You can be the richest guy in the room and nobody would know.

But fitness, it’s objectively there right in front of you.

People will think you’re smarter, they see that you have discipline, it’ll make you more attractive, which gets you more deals..

It’s one of the most highest return on investments possible.

Go out there and get after it cowboy 💪🖤

[Kévin @Kevin77956]

@hekkycastillo This is one of the sharpest takes on self-development I’ve seen.
You’re right — the self isn’t fixed but fluid, so choosing what to absorb is intentional, not fake.
Mixing traits from different archetypes builds a stronger personality.
there’s no permanent ‘me,’ i like that

[Hector Castillo @hekkycastillo]

All my life I have studied the people around me. I observe them, analyze what they do and why they do it, and then mimic it. I put into practice their personality traits and see if it works for me. If it does, why. If it doesn't, why not. Then I see if I LIKE this behavior or personality trait. If I do, I keep it. If I don't, I cast it aside and find an alternative that is more fun but just as effective or even more effective.

Have friends from every background and improve your dating life and social life (and life in general) by absorbing the positive qualities of their personalities.

Have a meathead jock friend who just does things and doesn't think too much about them. Watch how he brushes off things with pure motivation or headstrong determination and has a silly, childlike sense of humor. Mimic and practice these behaviors until they become a part of your core personality.

Have a smart friend who is incredible at figuring out things and is SUCCESSFUL because of it ("smart" guys who work minimum wage jobs or aren't exceptional at anything don't count, because they're not actually smart, just smug). Learn his problem solving skills and his mannerisms.

Have an artistic friend who is very expressive and passionate. Watch how his larger than life imagination and personality enraptures the world around him.

Have a socialite friend who is always engaged in interesting conversation and somehow finds a way to be the center of attention with just his social skills. He finds ways into high status social circles with no hard skills but his charm.

Have a seducer friend who is constantly meeting and seducing women. There's something about him that women love. Find out what that is. Study it and adapt it to your personality.

If you're afraid that you're "not being yourself," then I challenge you to be able to perfectly describe what "you" is. The REAL you.

Is it one thing? Many things? Do others share it? If they do, then how can it be said to be "you" or "yours"?

I already know the answer and if you're honest with yourself you'll also find that you CAN'T identify a consistent, unique, unchanging "thing" that is "you."

With the absence of such a "me," then why not just make this changing, multi-faceted, un-unique thing that you nebulously label as "you" the best YOU that it can be?

I'm not trying to be pedantic either. I fully understand there are some personality structures that you won't adhere too because they're too far removed from the current version of you...and I would NEVER advise you take any traits that are immoral/wrong...but if they're just COLORS of personality and aren't connected to any higher value or truth you hold to be immutable, then why not just pick the most fun and effective trait?

Why not be the best you can be?

[Hector Castillo @hekkycastillo]

Find really tough stoic traditionally masculine role models....real or fictional...

Also find expressive and semi-feminine men that you can imitate to add some flair...

Add in some jokey or clowny type...

Put some intellectuality into it...

And some ambitious businessman...

You'll have a super well rounded and infinitely interesting personality.

The problems start when you're too one-dimensional.

[Hector Castillo @hekkycastillo]

The opinions of others are only relevant under two circumstances.

1. They are being benevolent
2. They are speaking truth

Truth can be spoken from malice and still yield benefit, but usually it doesn't. And when it does, the actual benefit comes not from the insult (i.e., the knowledge of the person insulting you) but the psychology that led to them being angry with you (i.e., you learn how people behave and their emotional reactions to circumstances).

Outside of these situations, treat the opinions of others as less than worthless, barely worthy of being called thoughts.

[Hector Castillo @hekkycastillo]

Be the friend who gives 10x more than what he gets from anyone.

Your reward will be 100x what anyone else gets.

[Kévin @Kevin77956]

@Getinwithgame “Noted.
And when you come on Sunday, bring me something to eat —
at least honor the final act of your drama performance ”

[Panther® @MedeirosPanther]

@FitWithDrSam Most men perform masculinity like a costume. Real strength doesn’t shout, it radiates.