There are three kinds of people in the world: the ones who are trying, the ones who want to try, and the ones who can't try.
There are just plenty of losers in the world, who just can't try.
ngobrol sama salah satu bos di kantor
"lagi seneng saya nih sore ini"
"lho kenapa pak?"
"banyak yang keterima beasiswa ni, pada berangkat tahun ini semua"
"ga takut kehilangan pegawai, pak?"
"engga, nanti mereka pulang kan ilmu makin banyak, toh input pegawai ada terus. saya seneng pada kuliah, jadi makin berkembang SDM kita"
"kalau banyak yang resign setelah kuliah?"
"ya, gapapa, nanti tetep ada pegawai yang masuk yang bisa kuliah lagi"
dalam hati: keren ni mindsetnya bos ini
Moral of the story?
High-quality/competent people with power have the rights to choose to stay or leave, to choose where they belong.
People who are contributing to toxic environments & can't create safety to those high-quality people don't have the rights to ask them to stay.
I hired a young man to help my father around the house after his surgery. He showed up fifteen minutes early with a notebook, asking about my dad’s medication schedule and favorite meals. I expected the basics, just light cleaning and making sure he didn’t miss his pills. When I came home that evening, my father was laughing. The laundry was folded, dinner was warm, and the porch light had been fixed. They were playing chess at the kitchen table.
I told him he didn’t have to do all that. He shrugged and said, “I don’t like doing things halfway.”
Turns out he was studying physical therapy but had paused school because he couldn’t afford his clinical hours. He was working multiple small jobs to save up.
I mentioned it to a friend who runs a rehabilitation center. They needed an assistant and were willing to sponsor the rest of his training in exchange for a work contract.
He went back to school that fall.
Some people don’t just show up for the job. They show up for the calling.
I'm touched by this beautiful quote :
"Bahkan sebelum dikabulkan, kebaikan dari doa-doa telah turun sedikit demi sedikit dalam bentuk: kesehatan, bahu yang kuat, duka yang berangsur lega, juga rasa sabar untuk terus melanjutkan hidup."
My boss texted me at 9 PM: "Urgent."
I didn't reply until 9 AM.
He asked why.
I said: "Because unless the office is on fire, nothing is urgent at 9 PM. It is an inconvenience."
Normalize being unreachable.
For the first time in my life, I flight with the opposite emotions of the normal. Be done to us according to Your will, oh Our Father who art in heaven....
What rich families really educate their boys on:
-never look expensive look unbothered.
-don't explain yourself, power never over-explains.
-keep assets boring and pleasures private.
-learn which laws matter and which ones are for poor people only.
-never fall in love before you understand leverage.
-your surname opens doors. Don't embarrass it.
-cash is for emergencies. Credit is for opportunities.
-friends are categorized: useful, neutral, entertainment.
-if something is loud, emotional, or viral, its already a bad deal.
-always know who actually owns the room. It's rarely the loudest person.
-don't argue with broke people about money. Don't argue with emotional people about logic.
-learn taxes before you learn multiplication tables properly.
-you don't work hard forever. You work hard early to stop later.
-never let pleasure habits become visible patterns.
-reputation is currency. One scandal costs more than ten failures.
-silence is safer than honesty in most rooms.
-if you can't control your sleep, hunger, lust, or temper, you can't control money.
-marry someone who improves your bloodline, not your mood.
-keep one legal problem away from disaster at all times.
-always have an exit plan. For jobs, cities, county, relationships, even friendships.
Just rules whispered, not posted.
It's such a normal part of adulthood to realize some friendships shift, especially when your values and priorities evolve. People grow, and sometimes they grow in different directions. It doesn't mean anyone is "bad," it just means the dynamic might not fit anymore.
The first thing I look at is effort. Does it go both ways, or am I the one carrying it, initiating, checking in, making space, understanding?
A friendship can go through seasons, but it shouldn't feel one-sided forever.
If we're dating, I actually want to be your second priority.
Your first priority should be you. Your ambitions, your life, and your future. Stay focused! I want the best for you. Don't let me be a distraction; let me be your motivation, your support, and your partner in growth.
Aneh udah tahun 2026 masih ada yang bilang orang makan bubur ga diaduk itu psikopat.
Padahal yang udah jelas psikopat itu yang bikin sheet Excel tapi mulainya dari A1.