Maybe camp being fun is different for males and females, because I had an awful experience.
I had 40 roommates, which was overstimulating asf. I had intense social anxiety and completely withdrew into my shell. I was also labeled an “ajebutter,” so I genuinely couldn’t relate to anyone.
The only friend I had was someone that I knew from outside camp and we came in together but she was in a different private room, which made me feel even more alone. I didn’t make a single new friend and I’m actually a very social person in the right environment.
I was so unhappy. I was even cautioned to stop tweeting about my experience. When I stood for 5 hours for morning devotion, I knew I couldn't cope. I felt very disappointed in myself that I couldn't stay and beat myself up even more. Worse two days of my life.
I genuinely don’t understand how you guys find camp fun.
Unlike my son, he was looking forward to Nigeria and he was perfecting his Yoruba.
We went in August and he went to holiday coaching for just 4 days( 10am-2pm) with other kids.
Back to the UK, on the train after a quick nap, he just started lamenting on how Nigeria drained him.
He asked why they do so much work in class, why don’t they have toys or TV to watch?
Why do they have to write so much words?
He said “I wanted to cry cause I’m tired but the teacher told me not to cry”.
Why do the kids don’t cry in class, even when teacher beat a pupil?
In conclusion, he’s not going back anytime soon 😭😭
Last month my intern asked for help with a Kubernetes error.
He was stuck on a YAML file.
He looked desperate.
I make $275,000 a year.
I haven't written a line of code since 2017.
I don't even know what a "pod" is.
But I didn't tell him that.
I leaned back in my Herman Miller chair.
I said, "Stop trying to code. Start prompting."
I told him to paste the error into ChatGPT.
He did.
The AI told him to delete the cluster.
He did.
Production went down instantly.
The CEO called me screaming.
I didn't panic.
I told the CEO we were "testing our disaster recovery protocols."
He was impressed by my foresight.
I got a bonus.
The intern got fired.
Innovation requires sacrifice.
Just not mine.
Peak male experiences :
1. Finally understanding your Father
2. Owning your first car
3. Accepting the man in the mirror
4. Randomly realizing this is the woman you will marry
5. Becoming successful with your childhood friends
6. Sports team winning a title
7. First heartbreak
8. Watching your kid grow
9. Giving back to your parents
10. Ending imposter syndrome
I just turned 30 but here we go:
1. Take excess risk (in your career!) when you’re young. It’s a lot easier to rebuild at 24, when you don’t have dependents
2. Build a strong circle of friends, and invest heavily into the relationships. Quality is *far* more important than quantity.
3. But network widely. Talk to everybody and everything. Try to help them in anyway you can. Keep the core circle tight but the wider circle huge.
4. Find an interest and go deep, make it your core, but don’t neglect learning about the broader world. The best people I know can talk about a variety of topics but have one that is their expertise.
5. Read voraciously and widely about history, finance, whatever interests you. Books, not X. Never pick up a self-help book
6. Don’t rush things, or be blinded by your goal. This means, don’t ignore danger signs because they don’t align with what you want.
7. Careful deliberation is important, but when you decide to move forward, move with intensity and speed.
8. Stay humble. Don’t become comfortable. Leaning into comfort is a dangerous thing.
9. Learn a sport that you can play with others. Golf, tennis, skiing… it goes a long way
10. Don’t forget life is a journey, enjoy it :)
I knew my neighbor was cooking so I opened my door and allowed my cat to enter her own house, then I ran after the cat and apologized and greeted, then started a new conversation with, “Omo this country errh” 😔