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[aether @bluewdrift]

With books unread, muscles untrained, and thousands of skills untouched - if you're bored, you're not even trying.

[aether @bluewdrift]

You should study what makes you defensive. The topic you avoid, the joke that irritates you, the question that feels insulting, the feedback you instantly reject. Defensiveness is usually the guard dog sitting in front of a weakness you have not trained yourself to face.

[Adele Bloch @adele_bloch]

another perspective: the 4 types of friendship

1/ comfort
2/ do stuff
3/ deep talk
4/ ambient

the key to a less lonely life is to figure out which one you're missing most

(1) comfort friends

these are the people you don't have to explain yourself around. they're familiar. you feel most yourself around them. there's a type of loving understanding that comes in their presence - they've probably known you for a while, there's shared history, which creates a natural ease.

(2) do stuff friends

people to DO stuff with - hiking, sports, classes, hobbies. they might not even know that much about you - but you have fun together and bond over shared experiences. they probably live near you and you may see them frequently. you find connection through doing, not just talking.

(3) deep talk friends

people who are more in-the-know about your day to day challenges. you share openly with them. you may see the world similarly. they are values-aligned with the current version of you. these are the people who know you as you are TODAY, not just who you once were.

(4) ambient connection

this one's underrated - the feeling that humans are ambiently around you. from smiling at the barista to chatting with a stranger in the grocery store line. remote workers may be particularly prone to lacking this. knowing you're part of this ambient human energy at all moments.

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the key to a less lonely life is to figure out which TYPE of connection you're missing most

THEN you can create an actionable path forward to fill that gap!

you got it!!!

[aether @bluewdrift]

quitting your worst habit will change your life faster than starting your best habit. stop the leak before you fill the bucket

[roobz 🌙 🌸 @tishray]

I've noticed you can never run away from yourself for too long. You can coast for a couple of years, stay distracted long enough to quiet your inner workings, but life has a way of waking us up. Your triggers will always show up again, in different forms, until you truly make peace with them.

[Lammy @Lammyisback]

13 signs you might be masking AuDHD:

1. You call yourself an "introverted extrovert"
2. You rehearse conversations but can't stick to the script
3. You force eye contact - even when it feels wrong
4. Your brain runs a nonstop commentary on what "normal" should look like
5. You hide your passions because they feel too intense or "weird"
6. You make rules to keep control - but often end up breaking them
7. You build complicated routines that drain your energy, trying to force predictability
8. You want connection but end up isolating yourself
9. You say "yes" when you mean "no", without knowing what you really want
10. You rely on things like alcohol/smoking to survive social situations
11. You feel like a shape-shifter - constantly changing to meet expectations
12. You suppress or fake emotions to avoid making others uncomfortable
13. You feel deeply lonely, losing track of the real you

[ً @artfuIchaos]

anyone that tries to humble you understands they’re beneath you.

[Book Therapy @Book_therapy223]

True charm starts when you stop needing approval from anyone.

[BowTiedPhys @BowTiedPhys]

Whatever made you weird as a kid is the raw material for whatever will make you genius as an adult.

Lean into it. Now more than ever.

[Father Figure @chantel_swiftie]

The explanation is not make sure����🤣😭
Wrap it up! Ngeke!

[Laiiyylaa @Laiiyylaa]

Stop getting so emotionally attached and enjoy experiences with a person. Be friends. Be a moment in time. Be a memory. You don't have to fall madly in love with everyone who comes your way. Just enjoy their presence for your moment together.

[jo johnson @josbjohnson]

the fastest way to attract what you deserve is to become completely unavailable to what you don’t

[aether @bluewdrift]

What you do in private always shows in public. Reading shows in conversations. Your workouts show in your physique. Your diet shows in your energy. Your discipline shows in your confidence. Your focus shows in your results. You are what you cultivate when no one is watching.

[CINEMA 505 @CINEMA505]

High Tide (2024)

[♛ @ROMANREL0ADED]

Nicki tore Lil’ Kim out the frame with this read omg 😭

[valentine @valawakened]

I once heard an older woman say, “Let love find you in your living, not in your longing.” I’ve been carrying those words with me ever since.

[Aristo @aristomarinetti]

Carl Jung was right when he said: The world will ask you who you are, and if you don’t know, the world will tell you.

[Ushukela Omhlophe @cassie_luthuli]

The best sex is always with someone who pleases you for their own pleasure

[kas𓆩ꨄ︎𓆪 @urth2kas]

Me watching the blunt burn while my friend is telling a story