"if I pronounce a word wrong, it's because I learned it by reading," I say through tears as my wife's step son roundly mocks me for saying "The Wizard of Ounce"
I hate this idea that who you were, is who you are. With some extreme exceptions, most people learn through fucking up bad. I genuinely believe very few things make you unworthy of forgiveness. Especially if you've clearly learned. It would be great if we could do the right thing without doing the wrong thing, but for most of us, that's just not true across the board. It's very easy to look at one person's past choices and think, "I haven't done that, so they must be bad!" but it's important to remember that plenty of people would look at your worst choices and think the same.
This creates an environment where people can't admit fault. They can't admit having been part of a harmful system. Not being able to talk about that, means you can't freely speak on how you learned, and how you grew unless you receive public scrutiny for it. At that point, people will view it as covering your ass. Knowing how a person grew into a better one, is so important for the whole of humanity.
I think it's essential to hold people accountable. Always! I think it's also essential for people to talk about their poor choices before it's a point of controversy, and you can't do that if everyone is pretending they've never done a bad thing.
That being said, there's another side of it, where some truly horrible things are overlooked if a person is charismatic, and talented enough. Chris Brown, Cristiano Ronaldo and Conor McGregor are great examples of this.
The same groups aren't necessarily doing both of these things, but I do think it comes from a similar place. In my opinion, it seems to stem from the idea that only your perception matters. If it's wrong to you, it's wrong. If it's not a big deal to you, it's not a big deal. These are both a lack of empathy.
Learning that harm to one, is a harm to all, and the growth of one, is the growth of all, builds community. An angry mob can feel like a community when you're the one holding the pitch fork, but the second it turns on you, who will you fall back on?
@poe_collector I looked some more and dude has problems understanding parasocial relationships cuz that seems like a pit he's fallen into multiple times.
@poe_collector If he granted you any real personhood, instead of acting like you're a prize, he'd he horrified at what he put you through. But he's just got you on a pedestal in his mind.
@poe_collector The full delulu of this one. Straight into the sun. His thoughts are bouncing around in his head too long despite putting them all on his timeline. Needs therapy baaaad.
It's actually mind-boggling that @JDVance would say Watergate would be a "10 hour story" today.
Just to review, Nixon's aides authorized a break-in of the DNC HQ to install bugging equipment--in a caper foiled by a night watchman, who called police. They then enlisted the CIA to mislead the FBI that the break-in was related to a probe of malign foreign actors.
The entire operation was paid for by a slush fund controlled by the WH.
The WH also enlisted the IRS to probe hundreds of Nixon's political enemies.
The AG, the WH COS and several other top aides all were convicted and served time for their involvement in the crimes and coverup.
Nixon was caught on his own secret tape system conspiring with them but was pardoned a month after he resigned by his successor, Gerald Ford.
That Vance thinks this would be a "10 hour story" today speaks volumes about the moral and ethical degradation of the Trump era.