Kenyan aria stark🇰🇪

I am, because we are.

[Chukwu Emeka✍️⚙️ @AskEmmy0]

A woman found out her husband had a child outside.

She cried for a week, then forgave him and stayed.
"For the sake of the children," she said.

5 years later, she got a big promotion.

Started dressing better. Driving herself. Coming home a little later.

[Nicki 🫧🪷 @nickimoraa]

My dad left my mom after 32 years because he wanted to “finally be happy.”
The woman he left her for was 27.
My mother didn’t scream. Didn’t beg. Didn’t even argue.
She just quietly said, “Okay.”
For the next year she learned how to use online banking, started traveling with friends, renovated the kitchen he never let her touch, and took dance classes.
Meanwhile....

[Yoko @Kibet_bull]

Such tatoos are very common in Nakuru city, done by gangs.

Moreso those living in Soko mjinga, Kaptembwa, passing through bridge and etc.

[Elon Musk @elonmusk]

If you have a womb, you are a woman.

Otherwise, you are not.

[Freyy @Freyy_is]

okay… here goes;

my friend once told me that the strongest people are usually the ones who never got the love they deserved at the age they needed it most.

they grew up learning to be their own comfort. they became the ones who check on others because nobody checked on them.

they mastered resilience not because they wanted to be strong, but because every time they reached out,
no one reached back.

they laugh the loudest, because silence reminds them of every room they cried in alone. they give the best advice, because they had to heal themselves without directions.

they are soft, painfully soft even though life taught them hardness first.

and the saddest part?

you meet them today and think:
“wow, you’re so independent.” but you’ll never see the little kid inside who prayed for at least one person to choose them… and stay.

there are people you know right now who carry their entire world alone, and you will never notice until it crashes.

oh well, that’s none of your business.
but maybe it should be.🫶🏽

[Rakesh P Sheth @rakeshpsheth]

The only marriages that survive decades are the ones where both people outgrow their illusions, not each other.

A few hard truths most couples avoid:

At some point, love becomes logistics. If you can handle bills, stress, ageing parents, health scares and bad days without turning into enemies, you’ve already won half the battle.

Rituals matter. Not the Instagram kind…the tiny, boring, consistent ones. Eating together. Checking in. Saying the difficult thing before it becomes poison.

Respect ages better than passion. Desire fluctuates…dignity doesn’t. If your partner can trust your tone even in conflict, the marriage will breathe.

Don’t chase perfection…chase awareness. Most marriages break not because people change, but because they stop noticing each other’s changes.

And finally learn to fight clean. The goal is to solve the problem, not win the argument.

Long marriages are not fairy tales.
They’re two people choosing maturity over impulse again and again even on the days they don’t feel like it.

[Joseph Brendan @Joe_brendan_]

My dad was advising a man that was complaining about his wife not giving birth to a boy because the man said how will his name "survive"

And my dad said something that made me go crazy with my goals

he said,
If you want your name to live and not die, make a name for yourself. your kids cannot keep your name alive.

If you want your name to survive, give your name life by doing things that people will talk about when you die.

he asked the guy "who remembers the kids of Abraham Lincoln or the kids of Thomas Edison or even Nnamdi Azikiwe?"

"Who even cares about the kids of anyone great in history?" we don't.

So if you want your name to not die, make a name for yourself by being a great person or else, your name will die when you die and there is nothing you can do about it.

Every lineage comes to an end.
But the great names in every dead lineage do not die. They outlive generations.

[Aunty PreshTush @Iampreshtush]

The difference between men and women always shows in how they handle loyalty and accountability.
I once met a guy who told me the most bizarre story of abandonment ever.
Like their dad threw all 7 of them out and they had to live on the streets for weeks cos their dad told everyone the mum was a witch and a prostitute.
Nearly died of anaemia, a church had to house and feed them for 10 good years due to the mum’s mental state.
This same boy ended the story with
“I understand my dad now sha”
He spends more time speaking to the dad than the mum, and harbours unexplained resentment toward the woman.
I cancelled him afterwards cos he is undoubtedly his “Father’s son”

This is why I’m always in support of women leaving the kids especially boys with their fathers.
Women sacrifice themselves to raise kids only for society to hand the man medals for doing the bare minimum.
Women need to start choosing themselves. There are no trophies for mothers who stay, but somehow fathers get applause for simply showing up once and the disgruntled child is expected to forgive.

[Pages 🇺🇬 @EddiePages]

Btw this guy disappeared in 2016, and no one knows his whereabouts since.

[Kimuzi @Kimuzi_]

Bro, she quoted the tweet Na akaulizia OB number, Na police station kama amekua arrested.

Why do you guys like delegating every issue to her? Is she God?

Grow the fuck up.

Njeri will help Mahali atasaidia. And tbh, yeye alikua anadefend women. Men wanaeza Anza Yao.

[Jasveer Singh @jasveer10]

Got the most honest leave application yesterday. Gen Z doesn’t do filters!

[Sassafrass84 @Sassafrass_84]

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[Silas Nyanchwani @nyanchwani]

Life. Man.

When you are 25, 35, or 40, it looks like a lifetime away.
If in a good place at 25, say a graduate with good career prospects, and a steady lover, everything seems possible. You imagine you can squeeze a family, husband or wife, two kids, dream home, a PhD, and live your dream life by 35 or 40.

At 25, you look at older relatives or people with messy lives, and you wonder what could have gone wrong.

I remember the first time I attended my daughter’s PTA. I was a relatively young man. There were older folks, older men with vitambis, one or two with greying hair, and in my own youthful folly, I may have cursed inwardly, wondering, “where were they?”
When you are young, you will never understand how someone can be older and be jobless or be rudderless or without a family. When you are young and successful, you become criminally blind to the surprises of life. Sometimes things go so right, you win so much, so consistently, you forget about failure or losses. And these are the people likely to be hit the hardest when life happens.

A business partner in the UK told me how his sister recently alijitia kitanzi. The sister was a bright student all her life and ended up working in a large, global corporation. When she was laid off, the accumulated stress from the loss of her job and undetected depression sent her on a spin ending in death. She was 38.

What is ten years?

It sounds long. Right?

Yeah, but all it takes is one bad, long-term relationship to waste some six years. And you need up to two years to heal. That is, if you are strong and there are no kids. Divorce is a different ball game altogether. It takes almost two years from the point you decide to divorce, to another long year of back and forth, doubts, and all. Post-divorce is a terrible time, and both men and women handle it differently, and people move on in different timelines.

You think ten years is a long time, but all it takes is people saying “tutam” in a mannerless way, and you are stuck in a bad job or jobless for another three years, barely scraping by. We rarely talk about how bad governments keep being shackled in poverty longer than necessary.

You lost a job, and before you know it, three years have passed since you got another one. Some guy commented on my post that it took him 13 years to find a job after losing his first one.
Yaani, 25-42 is such a tumultuous period, and nothing in our constitution prepares you for the vicissitudes of that critical period. Marry right, and you have hit a jackpot. Marry wrong, and a decade of your life is flushed down the drain just like that.

A lecturer in a Kenyan university can turn a basic master’s degree into a nightmare, and what was supposed to be a two-and-a-half-year course can turn into a harrowing five years. There is a year you will drop it altogether, until a sensible friend encourages you to go back and finish.

You can fall sick unexpectedly and get derailed. Things can go wrong. May be ni wachawi wa kwenu. Maybe it is the poor choices you will make.

For instance, in the deep throes of passion, when the sex is good, when her legs are on your shoulders, and you are fishing deeper, you don’t stop to think that maybe, this guy, so good and tender, is a deadbeat-in-waiting. When a girl is all feminine, all-loving, all respectful, as a man, you never think for a moment that in two years she will turn you into an alcoholic milaya, sleeping with anything to get back to her, which is foolish already. Nobody, at the peak of a good relationship, stops to imagine that their partner will be the source of their future anguish.

And red flags?

Useless indicators. Red flags occur to you in startling clarity in hindsight. In hindsight, everything is so clear. But in real time, we assume. Assumption is the mother of all blunders adults are likely to commit.

Can you game life? Can you extract good outcomes if you play right?

I bet you can. Or maybe, everything is predestined to happen, as it happens, and we are just unwilling actors playing out a script whose end we don’t know.

I no longer know these things. Nowadays, I am willfully ignorant.
I saw this meme, and it’s like all of us are here for the first time, so “tupunguze advice”. We won’t stop dishing advice; those of us who do need some humility.

What I have learnt is that advice only makes sense after the experience. Not before.

Sometimes people come to me and all they want is for me to agree with their preconceived notions. When I point out different perspectives, they either go cold on me or disappear, only to reappear a few months later, saying, “Silas, you were right.” I don’t revel in them learning the hard way.

I am also like that.

There was this girl I loved and was so head-over-heels into her. And she had a sparkling charm, and something I had desired in a woman for such a long time. One day, I went to pick her up from the airport with my friend. After we dropped her off at her place, my friend told me to dump her. He was unequivocal with his advice. I was adamant that she was a good girl and that my friend was being unnecessarily hard on her for very humane, if girly, mistakes. After all, no one is perfect. My friend gave me that weary look we give friends who are about to trip. I thought he was jealous. I thought he wanted her. I felt myself smarter than him.

Roughly, a month later, the girl did the thing. No anesthesia. Ushawahi achwa hadi unajicheka? I had to hide from my friend for a while. He still laughs at me. And I hate him because of that.
But after she did that thing, my friend’s advice made sense. He had seen what I could not see when I was in love.

Anyway, to young people, live your life with diligence and discipline. There is so much within our control. And there is more that is beyond our control.

A few things I have learnt, I can tell my 25-year-old self:
1. Your personal goals (career, academic, social, spiritual, hobbies) are yours and yours alone. Never let anyone interfere with them. Not a spouse, not a child, not a family member. Indeed, there is room for adjustment here, a compromise there, as sensibly as it is possible. But never sacrifice personal goals for the greater good of something that can end like a relationship.
2. Don’t judge. Most of us millennials became those unmarried uncles and aunts pretty fast. We became the lucky unemployed uncle and the struggling aunt before we even knew it. Accept your wins as a young person with grace, and your losses with greater grace.
3. Don’t be addicted to anything: alcohol, drugs, sex, or gambling. Nothing enslaves or wastes time like treating an addiction. If you must drink every weekend, if you must use drugs, if you are gambling, you are on a very treacherous path. Morgan Housel said that self-control is having empathy for your future self. Ask an addict how difficult it is to stop a habit that has become their second nature.
4. Quit bad relationships sooner. It doesn’t matter if his pipe cures your demons. Or she rides the ghosts out of you—date people who are likely to complement your life desirably. Nothing wastes more time or derails people more than staying longer in useless relationships.
5. For men, know that at some point, between 25 and 45, you will lose something extremely important in your life. It can be your family (wife and kids), a dream career, your health, yourself, etc. What matters is not that you will lose that thing. What matters is how you handle the loss.
6. Save. Save. Save. Invest. Invest. Invest. However little. However much. You are never too young to be financially wise. Being financially wise is more of an attitude thing than the income you make itself. That is why a government employee earning Sh 50,000 has a better savings portfolio than an NGO guy earning Sh 200,000. Invest in financial literacy, son.
7. Invest in knowledge.
8. Have fun, as in live. Eat your best food. Date your crush. Drink what you like. But all the fun must be earned.
9. Always remember that the years go by very fast. And sometimes, life happens. Your dreams of what you will be ten years ahead may end up misplaced, and you can never predict where you will end up. I have a friend who is working in Kyrgyzstan. Good luck finding that on the map. Dude had completely different plans for life.
10. This came last because it is controversial to most people, but I will always encourage young people to find God.

May the week break.
Uncle Silas.

[The Nobel Prize @NobelPrize]

Tu Youyou became the first mainland Chinese scientist to be awarded a #NobelPrize in a scientific field - for discovering artemisinin, a malaria cure that’s saved millions. Today we reveal the 2025 medicine laureate. Stay tuned.

[𝐕𝐈 @6uhle]

the heels kinda eat tho

[👑S.A.L.A.K.O🕊 @UnkleAyo]

I grew up adoring Mahatma Gandhi. I don't know what bullshit they taught in school that influenced that adoration.

Then, I picked up books.

That guy was a racist piece of garbage - absolutely detested Africans.

One of his life goals was to see a world where, he didn't mind Indians inferior to the whites as long as they were classified superior to Africans.

One of the first "fights" he fought on landing South Africa was the enforcement of two separate entrance doors for whites and Africans.

Please pick up history books. It will shock you the amount of reinforced revision we were forced to ingest as children.

Just be open minded, be malleable - because you'll find punctured holes in the very religion, tribe and ideologies you adore.

Fuck Mahatma Gandhi.

[Juma G 🇰🇪 @jumaf3]

I usually, wonder, why the President flies with a group of humans in the same plane to another country, then when the plane lands, they alight fast, then lineup to great & "welcome" him... Why?

[Eric @amerix]

A man who beats a woman because of rejection is a coward.

He is a beta-pilled male.

He suffers from oneitis.

Once a woman taunts you for a fight, avoid her.

Because if you decide to fight her, you will injure her so severely.

Focus on your grit, craft and skill.

[Ray @ms_mutegi]

Here's why Lodwar should be on your bucket list. I ought to have done this weeks ago but life happened🫢😄

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