When a relationship ends, her family and friends will say, “It was his loss,” and focus only on what he did wrong. They rarely examine her role in the breakup or discuss how she could grow and become a better partner.
As a result, she moves from relationship to relationship with no personal growth, convinced she simply hasn’t found the “right man” yet.
She’s surrounded by people who coddle her, blame every failure on the man, and take no responsibility for the baggage or unresolved issues she brings into each new relationship.
Many therapists also report that counseling continues smoothly as long as the man is positioned as the problem. But the moment the woman is asked to take responsibility as well, she suddenly stop attending therapy.
Why?
Because taking accountability challenges the narrative she was raised with and requires genuine self-reflection…something women hate doing.
We need to talk about what’s happening to an entire generation…. I’m worried for my kids (this novel below can be for entrepreneurs / investors / or young women)
That girl crying because she “felt nothing” on a perfectly good date? She’s not broken. She’s been rewired.
We live in an instant gratification society that’s completely divorced from how life actually works:
Want food? Uber it. 30 minutes.
Want entertainment? Netflix it. Instant.
Want a date? Swipe it. Endless options.
Want dopamine? Scroll it. Non-stop hits.
Even want a dog playdate? There’s an app for that.
Everything worth having can be summoned with a tap…EXCEPT THINGS THAT ACTUALLY MATTER
You can’t app your way into a meaningful relationship. You can’t one click a sense of belonging. You can’t Amazon Prime a purpose.
But your brain doesn’t know that anymore. Social media has hijacked your reward system. Every scroll gives you a tiny dopamine hit…new face, new drama, new possibility. Your brain now expects relationships to feel like infinite scroll: effortless stimulation, zero investment, next option one swipe away.
Real human connection doesn’t work like that. It’s slow. It’s awkward at first. It requires investment before you see returns. Real connection is built through:
Shared struggle + Shared purpose (serving at church, volunteering, building something) + Shared presence (showing up when it’s boring, when it’s hard, when there’s no audience)
The “spark” you’re waiting for? It’s not supposed to strike like lightning. It’s supposed to be built…through consistency, vulnerability, and time. But you’ll never feel it if your brain is constantly comparing real life to the highlight reel, the algorithm, the fantasy.
Build slow, build real. Friendships that last decades start boring. Relationships that endure start imperfect. Community requires showing up on Tuesday nights when you’d rather be home.
Real life wants you present, connected, and building.
Choose accordingly.
Myles Lewis-Skelly vs. Real Madrid:
100% tackles won
100% dribbles completed
95% pass accuracy
4 duels won
2 key passes
1 clean sheet
1 assist
He made his senior debut for Arsenal in September 😳