I donāt know Queen Mother Best Kemigisa personally. Iām not from Toro either. But I think I now understand why watching her grief has affected me this deeply.
In 2020, she graced the official launch of @HolicPads as my guest of honor. And honestly, I couldnāt believe that she would actually come. Me, a girl who jokingly calls herself a queen , inviting a real Queen Mother and she showed up.
That meant so much to me. It showed me something about the kind of human being she is beyond the title. I have carried that respect for her ever since.
Maybe thatās why this hurts me. Maybe itās because Iām a mother too. Maybe itās both.
Iāve cried seeing her break down because, before the Queen Mother, before the kingdom, before the titles and positions, I see a mother who has lost her child. A woman who has lost her husband. A mother who has lost her princess. And now she has to grieve while the whole world watches.
And somehow, even in that pain, people are still debating her worth, her position, what she deserves and what she doesnāt deserve.
I donāt know the politics of Toro. I donāt know what her position should be. And honestly, I donāt want to speak on things I donāt understand.
I just know what I see: a woman hurting.
And I wish we could sometimes see the human being before the title.
Today, I see the mother before the Queen.
May God hold Queen Mother Kemigisa gently through this season. May He give her strength, peace and protectionšš¾
Some pain doesnāt need opinions.
Some pain simply needs compassion.
Rest in peace, King Oyo. May your legacy live foreveršš¾
The Internet age can be interesting. So, this young man who had his employment application pending till I send my recommendation(he had asked me if I could allow him submit my name) came to my office for it. Yes, I knew him since he was brought to my office by my daughter two years ago. I asked for his SM accounts especially X & I reviewed his posts for as far as 3 years ago. My search yielded no insults & how much he posted about the subject of his job application. I can say I was impressed & in addition to the letter, I called the would be employer for a further discussion & I pointed out that heās disciplined, used his SM space well & a leader(had seen him lead a section of KYU). Who knew that recommending someone for any opportunity in this age can be this easy? Use your SM accounts well.
You think life is fair?
1. There are good women who are sidechicks
2. Whores that have perfect relationships
3. Good guys who are being cheated on
4. Lazy people who have money
5. Givers who are really poor
6. Stingy people who are rich
7. Hardworking people who are paupers
8. Innocent people who are in prison
9. Thieves walking freely
10. Poor people with a perfect immune system
11. Rich people who dare not skip a week to visit the clinic,
12. Hungry people with no illness, foodies with ulcer dilemmas
Just live and let live - also try to enjoy life as it comes.
It's fun being a daughter born to generational wealth. I get to date whoever I want without turning dating into a financial audit. Meanwhile, some people are out here calling perfectly decent men "broke" because they need a boyfriend to solve an economic problem he didn't create
Saturday lunch with Mentee Abdul turned into one of those conversations that sticks with u.
He was full of school stories, but one really stood out, heās been wrestling with math lately. Naturally, I told him I used to struggle with it too, that it was one of my weaknesses. He cut me off before I could even finish. āMine isnāt a weakness,ā he said. āItās something I can improve.ā Wow.
I asked him what his plan was. Without missing a beat, he said, āUnderstanding the question before I answer. Most of the time I was rushing, and I realized that was my fault. I want to slow down.ā I sat there genuinely impressed kubanga this kid had already diagnosed exactly what was holding him back.
It hit me: the biggest failure most of us carry isnāt the mistake itself, itās that we never stop to ask where weāre actually going wrong. Mentee Abdul reminded me of something simple bt powerful knowing what makes u fail is the first step toward success.
Proud of you, my boy Mentee Abdul.
See u in December Boot Camp and I hope youāll do well like you did last year.
Hereās to a strong next term.
ā WHY DO WE FEAR TO START?
What if the small thing you start today becomes the thing you are known for 20 years from now?
People have told me, āI wasnāt born to do business. I canāt manage it.ā But I keep asking myself: Who is born knowing how to build a business? Who starts already knowing everything?
Maybe the difference is simply that some people are willing to start, learn, fail, adjust and keep going.
š I often wonder why someone waits until they are 50+ to say, āI want to start a small business,ā when they could have started learning and building it 20 years earlier.
š WHY NOT START NOW?
It doesnāt have to be a business. It could be an idea, a skill, a career path, a social cause, a craft, or anything you are passionate about. Start something. Give it time. Learn from it. Let it grow.
For years, many people have known me as a person with a disability who sells liquid soap and honestly, I like that my name is attached to it. What some people may have looked at as a last resort became something I chose to build.
The employment space had already told me I didnāt fit because of my physical appearance. So why should I wait for someone else to decide my worth?
š I always ask my colleagues: What do you want to be remembered for, and what are you doing today to make that possible?
We often admire successful businesses, organisations and careers without remembering that they all started somewhere with an idea, a first step, and years of learning.
I once heard the Prime Minister of Buganda @cpmayiga say that for many ventures, it can take 10ā15 years before someone starts seeing meaningful returns.
ā But how many of us are willing to wait that long?
We want results now. We want success quickly. Yet we are willing to spend years working for someone else, forgetting that the place we hope to work for also had someone who started it from somewhere.
ā So, why are we afraid to start?
What if you started today and gave yourself 10, 15 or 20 years to become really good at it?
š START NOW.
Your future self and perhaps an entire generation after you may be grateful that you did.
I asked a divorce lawyer who handled over 500 cases:
What are the clearest signs a marriage is heading for divorce?"
He told me there are always 5 major signs a marriage is almost ending.
1. They stop fightingā¦.
Goodmorning @IamTheSparrow.
This morning I woke up with a crazy idea. An idea that says the Uganda Penal Code should be one of the Subjects taught to boys at an early stage maybe between 11-16.
Am thinking of creating a lighter version for this subject such that as boys grow theyāre aware of the consequences that come from their actions. In that way , we help create a more disciplined society.
Tell me what you think.
Friends am urgently looking for replacement charger of my Garmin Forerunner 255.
If you have it pls let me know at any price.
Remember itās Garmin Forerunner 255. I need the charger alone.
Youāre not going to see any post of this guy about Uganda coffee nor world life on any of his media platforms. After offering him a VIP treatment straight to the state house and he offered some beautiful women for the nights then he will fly back home with $1m tax payerās money. What would Amin do to these people?
āIt takes a village to raise a child.ā
But somewhere along the way, we quietly redefined the village to mean the mother, her sisters, and any women willing to help.
And then we wonder why fatherhood is disappearing.
A village without men is not a village. It is a community operating with half its architecture missing.
A boy needs to see men provide, restrain themselves, apologise, keep their word, protect without controlling, and exercise authority without violence. A girl equally deserves to experience responsible masculinity close enough to recognise it later in life.
Men cannot demand respect as fathers while outsourcing the labour of fatherhood to women.
If it takes a village to raise a child, men must return to the village, not merely as providers of money, but as providers of presence, example and accountability.
Fatherhood is not a financial transaction.
It is an apprenticeship conducted in the presence of a child.
I donāt know who needs to hear this, but get yourself a WASHING MACHINE. šš
Please debunk that old-school belief that āthey use too much electricityā and āthe clothes donāt get properly clean.ā
My friend, your hands are tired for nothing. šš¤£
I am in a toxic relationship with my boda guy because I refused to lend him money. I just wanted to keep limits, and now he no longer picks up my calls.
At the tail end of Express Highway at Mpala. My driver is stoped by a traffic officer.
TO: Howāre you young man?
Dr: I am okay sir
TO: show me your driving license
Dr: Searches from his phone & gives it to him.
TO: Checks it up using his phone. You can go
Me: I am pleased by his professionalism so, I lower the hind glass.
Me: Good morning Officer
TO: Good morning sir
Me: I am AIGP(Rtd) Kasingye
TO: Eeh Afande, I even remember I guarded at your home in Katabi. But youāve changed. Calls his boss an IP
IP: Eeh Afande, you have fattened.
Me: laughs, I am not a cow. Just say I added some weight šš
IP: You inspected my station in Nansana. You were tough on me but you advised me well.
Me: Continue being nice to people but firm. Stay well.