Being in a healthy relationship really taught me there's no such thing as 'that's just the way I am'. When you truly love someone you work on those toxic traits, you learn to communicate, you actively listen to each others thoughts & feelings – you adjust, grow & heal together.
Before there was Jewish holocaust, there was African holocaust that lasted for 400 years. No one tells the Jews to forget their past, only Africans are told to forget their history and move on.