Meanwhile, the woman they had replaced had joined another company.
Her new boss didn’t call her a receptionist.
He called her Operations Coordinator.
Within eight months, she was promoted to supervisor.
When her former manager heard about it, he apparently said:
“She was only answering phones here.”
And that’s exactly the problem.
He had mistaken the visible part of someone’s job for the value of the person doing it.
Anyone can answer a phone.
Not everyone knows what to do when the person on the other end says, “You should already know how we handle this.”
The real purpose of wealth is to have the calm to live your life your way. It's to have the freedom to slow down. To spend your days doing things that you actually care about. That’s what money is really for. Not to impress strangers. Or to collect expensive distractions. But to own your time. To have a quiet breakfast without checking emails. Long dinners without looking at the clock. Conversations without feeling rushed. A calm weekend without thinking about the spreadsheet you need to turn in on Tuesday. Time to read. To think. To explore your interests. That’s real wealth. Everything else is noise.
Reminder for all young parents:
You only get:
- 1 Summer with your baby
- 3 with your toddler
- 9 with your child
- 5 with your teenager
This time is precious. Don’t rush it.
Friday morning quote:
"The three stages of career development are:
1. I want to be in the meeting
2. I want to run the meeting
3. I want to avoid meetings.”
-Jay Ferro
ADHD is a life lived in drafts.
Almost organized. Almost on time. Almost finished. The gap between intention and execution isn’t laziness. It’s the friction of executive function. If that helps you feel seen, I hope this message finds you. XO, Dr. Jen
Something is happening to women in their 50s, and I don't think people are paying enough attention to it.
I'm watching women who spent decades being the reliable ones. The peacemakers. The caregivers. The ones who kept the family together, swallowed their frustration, carried other people's emotional baggage, and were told that being "good" meant being accommodating.
And now something has shifted.
They're looking at marriages that have been one-sided for years.
Friendships built entirely on their effort.
Jobs that took everything they had and gave very little back.
Family roles that expected endless sacrifice while offering little appreciation in return.
And they're asking a simple question:
"Why am I still doing this?"
What's fascinating is that many of these women aren't becoming angry. They're becoming clear.
Clear about their boundaries.
Clear about their value.
Clear about what they will and will not tolerate with the years they have left.
The guilt that used to keep them silent doesn't seem to work anymore.
The fear of disappointing everyone else doesn't seem to work anymore.
The pressure to be endlessly available doesn't seem to work anymore.
An entire generation of women appears to be looking around and deciding:
"If this relationship, job, friendship, or obligation only works when I'm the one doing all the sacrificing, then maybe it doesn't work at all."
And honestly?
It's one of the most interesting social shifts I've seen in a long time.
meu pai sempre me disse: “se você quer correr, vá correr, não procure companhia. mais cedo ou mais tarde, na sua quinta corrida ou na sua vigésima, pessoas com a mesma mentalidade vão te encontrar por conta própria.” e só recentemente eu percebi que esse princípio funciona em todo lugar.
After 40, two things become far more valuable than any type of wealth:
1) No chronic disease diagnosis.
2) A lean, muscular, strong body.
Money can buy comfort.
But it cannot buy back lost health.
The older I get, the more I realize wisdom is just knowing what to ignore. Texts. Calls. Opinions. Drama. FOMO. Places that disturb your peace. People who drain you. Living simply and privately. Protecting your peace. That will do.