Marriage was always about binding a man to an extremely massive burden (a woman) in order to ensure survival of the children (child support).
Everything else you've heard about marriage is trying to convince you it's not about that, because that truth has NEVER been appealing.
The mental health crisis isn’t affecting men and women in the same way.
Women’s natural solipsism is curdling into narcissistic grandiosity. Men’s natural idealism is revolting into psychopathic contempt.
The two aren’t unrelated. The more narcissistic grandiosity demands exemption from accountability, the more contempt it breeds in the people forced to live with it.
Grandiosity cannot survive accountability. When someone refuses accountability, reality itself has to be reinterpreted to protect the ego. That’s where delusion begins.
Contempt doesn’t require that same distortion. A contemptuous person can be angry, cynical, bitter, and emotionally numb while still recognizing reality for what it is.
That’s why women’s mental health crisis becomes progressively harder to escape. The deeper someone sinks into grandiosity, the more psychological defenses they build to avoid accountability. The more those defenses accumulate, the more entrenched the delusion becomes—and the harder it is to ever dig back out of it.
Its not your girl its just your turn....to be the center of her delusion.
A cloak she drapes over you in the form of her fantasy which inevitably tears & rips.
C'est La vie
Women fall in love with their mental idealization of men at the start of a relationship, then are gradually heartbroken by the reality being different
Men gradually fall in love as they get to know a woman, then are heartbroken to find out their woman only loved an idea of them