We’re living in a time where everything is being turned into sides, into enemies.
Every headline, every issue, every conversation gets twisted into outrage. Not because it matters, but because it keeps people angry, reactive, and divided. And too many people are feeding right into it.
We’ve created this culture where everyone is suddenly an expert on everything… and at the same time, understands nothing in detail. People will go to war in the comments, die on a hill for someone who wouldn’t give them a second thought, and defend narratives they’ve never truly understood or causes they’ve never actually worked on or fought for.
Meanwhile, the people who actually benefit from the chaos are sitting back, watching it unfold, fully aware of how easy it is to keep us distracted, and even worse, falsely entertained. Even serious discussions about real threats quickly devolve into name-calling, death threats, and the craziest of accusations.
Think about that.
We have real issues. Real threats. Real problems that require attention, awareness, and critical thinking. But instead of facing them, we bury everything under social media controversies and outrage cycles that solve absolutely nothing.
And placing blind faith in people, especially those who won’t be there when shit actually hits the fan, isn’t strength, it’s a vulnerability.
There are a lot of forces pulling people in different directions right now. Influence is everywhere, and not all of it has your best interests in mind. If you don’t stay grounded in who you are, if you don’t think for yourself, you’re just getting pulled along like everyone else.
We don’t all have to agree. That’s not the point.
But we should be able to think. To listen. To learn. To focus on what actually matters.
Because if we keep turning on each other over everything….we’re doing exactly what others want us to do.
And we can be better than that.
I set fire to my school when I was thirteen years old.
They sent me to an institution. I was there for about a month. A man in that facility did something to me that I have never spoken about publicly until today. I was a child. He was not.
I carried that for thirty-one years. Through a marriage. Through five kids. Through driving a garbage truck at 5 AM and writing between stops in parking lots with the engine running. Through 1,800 posts and 26,000 subscribers, and a ministry I built with my bare hands.
Thirty-one years of silence.
I'm breaking it now.
Not because I want your sympathy. Not because I want to "process" or "heal" or whatever word the therapists use. I'm breaking it because I watched a 22-year-old kid on the Shawn Ryan Show this week describe being groomed on Roblox at twelve years old, by a developer that Roblox put in their own commercials, and I sat in my chair, and I could not move.
Not because of what happened to him.
Because I looked at a picture of my own children on the wall across the room.
And I thought about every screen in my house. Every app I never opened. Every conversation I never asked about. Every night, my kids were in their rooms on devices I paid for, connected to platforms I never checked, talking to people I never met.
And I realized something that made me sick.
I've been so busy carrying my own silence that I almost missed what was happening right in front of me.
Let me tell you what's happening.
Right now — tonight — there are grown men on Roblox, Discord, VR Chat, and a dozen other platforms your children use every single day. They have playbooks. Not metaphorical playbooks. Literal, documented grooming strategies. They build trust with your kid over weeks. They gift virtual currency. They isolate. They normalize. And then they destroy.
The kid on the Shawn Ryan Show tried to kill himself at fifteen. His mother reported it to Roblox. The company did nothing. The predator — a man named Kevin Nolan, featured in Roblox's own TV commercials on Cartoon Network — is still free. Still online.
Seven hundred thousand people watched that interview in two days.
Twenty million reports of child exploitation hit the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children's CyberTipline last year. Twenty million. Reports of online enticement surged 192% in a single year. And those are just the cases someone actually reported.
Your child's bedroom is not safe. Not because you failed as a parent. Because the battlefield moved into your house through a screen, and nobody told you.
I know what it feels like when a man reaches for a child in a room no one is watching. I know what it does to a boy. I know what it costs him for the next three decades. I know the silence. I know the shame. I know the way your body flinches at things you can't explain, and your wife asks what's wrong, and you say "nothing" because you don't have the words.
I have the words now.
And I'm using them.
I'm not starting a movement. I'm not launching a nonprofit. I'm not pivoting my platform. I'm doing what a father does. A father protects his own. And he warns other fathers.
So here's your warning.
Check your kids' phones tonight. Not tomorrow. Tonight. Open Roblox. Open Discord. Look at the friend lists. Read the messages. Ask your child who they're talking to. And when they say "just my friends" — verify it. Because the man who hurt me was supposed to be helping me. And the man who groomed that kid on Roblox was supposed to be making games for children.
The people who destroy children don't look like monsters. They look like helpers. They look like developers. They look like youth pastors, coaches, and family friends. And they are counting on you being too busy, too trusting, or too distracted to notice.
Don't be.
Be not ye afraid of them: remember the Lord, which is great and terrible, and fight for your brethren, your sons, and your daughters, your wives, and your houses. — Nehemiah 4:14
That was written for men standing on a wall with a sword in one hand and a trowel in the other. Building something and defending it at the same time.
That's us.
I wrote the full story on Substack today. Everything I've never said. What happened to me. What I found. What I'm going to do about it. And what I need from you.
If you're a father, read it. If you're a mother, read it. If you have a child with a screen in their hand, read it.
And if you know someone who needs to see this — share it. Not for me. For the kid in the room, no one is watching.
I'm done being silent.
We're not hiding anymore.
@RoweTandi@robbystarbuck@guimarin And you can focus on things they are truly interested in! As they get older they have lots of time to shadow professionals in the real world and seek information about career choices
"It's not the police who need to be retrained, it's the public. We have grown into a mouthy, mobile phone wielding, vulgar, uncivil society with no personal responsibility and the attitude of 'it's the other person's fault, you owe me'. A society where children grow up with no boundaries or knowledge or concern for civil society and personal responsibility.
When an officer says "Put your hands up," then put your hands up! Don't reach for something in your pocket, your lap, your seat. There's plenty of reason for a police officer to feel threatened, there have been multiple assaults and ambushes on police officers lately. Comply with requests from the officer, have your day in court. Don't mouth off, or fight, or refuse to comply... that escalates the situation.
Police officers are our sons and daughters, fathers and mothers, brothers and sisters. They're black, white, brown, all colors, all ethnicities, all faiths, male and female, they are us. They see the worst side of humanity... the raped children, the bloody mangled bodies of traffic victims, the bruised and battered victims of domestic violence, homicide victims, body parts... day after day.
They work holidays while we have festive meals with our families. They miss school events with their kids, birthdays, anniversaries, all those special occasions that we take for granted. They work in all types of weather, under dangerous conditions, for relatively low pay.
They have extensive training, but they are human. When there are numerous attacks on them, they become hyper vigilant for a reason, they have become targets. When a police officer encounters any person... any person, whether at a traffic stop, a street confrontation, an arrest, whatever... that situation has the potential to become life threatening. You, Mr & Mrs/Miss Civilian, also have the responsibility of keeping the situation from getting out of control.
Many law enforcement officers are Veterans. They've been in service to this nation most of their lives, whether on the battlefield or protecting us here at home. They are the only thing that stands between us and anarchy in the streets.
If you want to protect your child, teach them respect."
~ Sheriff David Clarke
The University of Nebraska debunks the manipulation behind cow farts/burps and methane:
“They have not accounted for the capture part, they only account for methane being released. Carbon capture in soil and grass - helped out by cow grazing and manure - can far outweigh the emissions from cattle. Grasslands can take up more CO2 and carbon in the soil and plants, that offsets the CO2 that cattle are producing but it also offsets the methane.”
Minnesota's Democratic leaders are backed into a corner with all the fraud evidence, but they're still trying to win. That's why they NEED to set the streets on fire .
“Our sidewalk teams are ordinary believers doing extraordinary work. Every mother empowered to choose life shows that no barrier—language, logistics, fear, or confusion—is too big for the Lord to overcome. All glory to Him,” stated Tara Shaver of Abortion Free New Mexico.
New Mexico becomes a national center for those seeking abortions outside the state
Full report: https://t.co/IUMs8PMrYq
ALBUQUERQUE, New Mexico- New studies reveal that New Mexico is one of the country's main destinations for people traveling from other states in search of abortion services. This trend has grown in recent years due to legal restrictions in neighboring states, especially Texas, as well as the presence of clinics and support networks that allow those who face barriers in their places of origin to receive medical care.
According to the most recent data, in 2023 more than 14,000 Texas residents traveled to New Mexico to get an abortion, representing 71% of all procedures performed in the state that year. Although the figure decreased to approximately 12,700 in 2024, New Mexico remains among the states with the highest influx of non-resident patients.
The growth of these figures has been driven by the support of national and local funds, such as the National Abortion Fund Network, Mariposa Fund and Texas Equal Access Fund, organizations that provide logistical and financial support for transportation, accommodation, travel accompaniment and, in some cases, the total cost of the procedure.
Texas Equal Access Fund executive director Kamyón Conner said the data reflects what her organization observes on a daily basis. "When a person needs an abortion, she does everything possible to receive attention, and right now that means traveling to New Mexico from states like Texas, where politicians have banned abortion... New Mexico has always been a crucial access point for people from Texas," she said in a statement. Conner added that "people should not have to drive all night or get on a plane just to receive basic health care," stressing that these forced travels affect minorities and communities with fewer resources more intensely.
Other voices, however, express concern. Tara Shaver, spokeswoman for Abortion Free New Mexico described as "alarming" the level of funding that reaches the state to facilitate these trips. "We are witnessing a coordinated effort of millions of dollars to transfer vulnerable women by plane to an industry that profits from the death of innocent people," she said. Shaver added that, in her opinion, "New Mexico is being used as the capital of abortion in the United States... This is not medical care, it is a tragic abuse against women."
While the debate continues, studies confirm that New Mexico remains a main destination for those traveling in search of abortion services, generating various reactions among those who highlight the importance of access and those who raise ethical and community concerns.
Tara Shaver, spokeswoman for Abortion Free New Mexico described as "alarming" the level of funding that reaches the state to facilitate these trips. "We are witnessing a coordinated effort of millions of dollars to transfer vulnerable women by plane to an industry that profits from the death of innocent people," she said. Shaver added that, in her opinion, "New Mexico is being used as the capital of abortion in the United States... This is not medical care, it is a tragic abuse against women."
Joseph of Arimathea took down a corpse.
Hands still sticky with blood.
Skin already cold.
Touched death. Held it. Wrapped it.
Became ceremonially unclean for Passover.
For a dead man.
Here's what most Christians miss about the burial of Jesus:
Joseph was a wealthy man. A member of the Sanhedrin. A respected Jew.
And Passover was 3 hours away.
The holiest day of the year.
But he climbed Golgotha anyway.
Jewish law was clear:
Touch a dead body = unclean for 7 days.
Can't worship. Can't celebrate. Can't enter the temple.
Joseph knew this.
He'd spent his entire life following these laws.
But Jesus was still hanging on that cross.
Picture it:
The crowds are gone. The soldiers drunk. The women weeping.
Joseph approaches Pilate—the man who just murdered his Lord—and asks permission.
"Can I have the body?"
Pilate grants it.
Now Joseph has to actually DO it.
He walks to Golgotha.
Blood-soaked dirt. The smell of death. Three crosses against the sky.
Jesus in the middle.
Still.
Finally still.
Joseph climbs the ladder.
Grabs the first nail.
Pulls.
Feel the weight of that moment.
God's body in your arms.
The blood isn't dry yet.
It stains his expensive robes.
His hands.
Under his fingernails.
He can taste the iron in the air.
This is what obedience looks like.
Messy. Expensive. Permanent.
Nicodemus shows up.
Another secret disciple. Another Sanhedrin member.
He brings 75 pounds of myrrh and aloes.
That's about $150,000 worth of burial spices in today's money.
Two wealthy men. Two cowards until now.
Finally brave when it's already too late.
They work fast.
Sabbath is coming. They have maybe 3 hours.
Wrap the body. Pour the spices. Seal the tomb.
The sun is setting.
Joseph is now officially unclean.
Can't celebrate Passover tomorrow.
Can't enter the temple for a week.
Think about what he just gave up:
His ceremonial purity.
His Passover celebration.
His reputation (everyone saw him bury a "blasphemer").
His position (the Sanhedrin won't forget this).
His safety (Romans might come for disciples next).
All for a dead man.
But here's what most Christians miss:
Joseph didn't do this expecting resurrection.
He did it expecting NOTHING.
Jesus was dead. Gone. Finished.
This wasn't faith in resurrection.
This was love for a corpse.
That's the part that wrecks me.
Joseph touched death—literally—knowing it meant giving up everything.
Not because Jesus promised him anything.
But because Jesus deserved honor even in death.
Modern Christianity wants clean obedience.
Safe obedience.
Obedience that doesn't cost you Passover.
But Joseph shows us something different:
True discipleship gets your hands dirty.
You want to follow Jesus?
Then stop avoiding the messy parts.
Stop waiting for clean opportunities.
Stop demanding that obedience be convenient.
Joseph climbed Golgotha when everyone else went home.
He wrapped a corpse when he could've stayed clean.
He missed the holiest day of his life to honor a dead "criminal."
He risked everything when there was no visible reward.
That's not religion.
That's worship.
The twist?
Three days later, that tomb was empty.
Joseph gave his grave to Jesus.
Jesus left it empty.
Forever.
Joseph thought he was burying God.
He was actually setting the stage for resurrection.
Your messy obedience?
God's using it too.
Even when you can't see it.
So here's the question:
What are you avoiding because it's too messy?
What obedience are you postponing because it's inconvenient?
What grave are you unwilling to give?
Joseph of Arimathea held death in his arms.
Got blood on his hands.
Missed Passover.
Lost his reputation.
And earned his name in all four Gospels.
Religion says "stay clean."
Discipleship says "get dirty."
Joseph chose discipleship.
What are you choosing?
—TBM