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[Jade Osiberu @jadeosiberu]

I know a number of people who didn’t marry their “spec” but are in the healthiest marriages I know. Their spec was typically whatever was culturally deemed to be at the apex of the attractiveness pyramid when they were growing up. For a lot of guys in my generation, it was the music video “vixens” from the late 90s/early 2000s Hip & R&B music videos with ‘coke bottle figures’ and or light skinned eurocentric features. When it’s time to find a partner for the very serious endeavor of sharing a life with, that “spec” is simply inadequate as a measure of compatibility and that’s understandable. The foolishness though is communicating it as though their partner somehow didn’t measure up to their “spec” instead of simply admitting that the idea of their spec was stupid all along and a young boy’s lack of wisdom of what makes a good life partner.

Communicating publicly or even privately to your partner that they weren’t your spec to begin with may seem harmless, after-all you’re just being honest. But subconsciously, it’s an ego trip for you who “settled” and for your the partner, it’s a chip they will always carry on their shoulder that to you, they aren’t quite enough. They’re missing something you had always longed for, so much so that you still consider it to be your “spec”. It’s an unnecessary mind fuck and a cruel thing to say about somebody who is sharing a life with you. No matter how flowery you are with the compliments that come after. You’ve already knocked them down several pegs.

If the point is to say your spec changed then talk about the stupidity of having a spec to begin with. Because I’ve never heard anyone in these situations talk about character attributes being their spec, it’s always superficial stuff. Or speak about how meeting your partner opened your eyes to what true beauty is. Speak in ways that elevate and affirm your partner.

[Sporting Lagos @SportingLagos]

Seun Akanji’s last training session before moving to Lillestrøm in Norway 🥹💙

[Dynamic Range @Marvel_00_us]

@eric_gugua Enyi bia!
We don't do that here!

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@TomiwaImmanuel 😅
My Pastor please nawww

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@Limoblaze She good! 🔥🔥

[LIMOBLAZE OMO JESU @Limoblaze]

Presenting the next generation of Christian creatives through #Youngandchosenbloom

Meet 19 year old Teninlanimi with her first single release 😤

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@ElvisOkhifo AGO?

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@bukky_oe @the_Lawrenz Blocked forever!

[FBG 🚚 @fatimahgimsay]

Love the reactions and energy we’ve gotten today! It’s so nice being a part of something bigger than myself. I can’t wait for ALL OF US to #WatchBlackMarket

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@ogheneovie_o 😂😂

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@bukky_oe @the_Lawrenz You don't like Manchester United??
Look me in the eye when you break my heart!

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@bukky_oe Yeah definitely
I think the role change is a factor.
He hasn't started on the right since the 1st half vs Senegal. Maybe he's impacted the game for france more from the middle but he's now starting sequences rather than ending them hence the reduced numbers of goals

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@bukky_oe Valid issue but I'll take it over Barcola. That guy stresses spanish commentators for nothing. You go just dey waste shout every time.

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I love him to shreds!

[Raj Chohan @rajsinghchohan]

Mbappé penalty and Doué chance both come from Doué himself recovering the ball. Out of the elite wingers, I have him as the best defensively and why I also think he transitions to playing as an 8 later in his career.

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Na so e go dey can till e reach 30
I prefer Desire Doue every single time

[ovie, the stunner @ogheneovie_o]

Barcola can be a serious player. I perceive Dele Alli everytime he’s on the ball.

[Fabrizio Romano @FabrizioRomano]

🚨🇧🇷 Andrey Santos has just completed a successful medical as new Manchester United player.

Clubs signed all documents for £50m packate deal.

Andrey signs tomorrow, Friday on deal until June 2031 plus option at #MUFC.

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@PriyeDavid @1Tolufe @UtdXclusive @JacobsBen @UnitedStandMUFC 😂

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@kodeblack_47 @carrill69o The moment we signed Santos I started screaming for Baleba!

[Kachii @badasskachii]

Till I came to Twitter, I never believed any real Manchester United fan would say Ronaldo is a bigger club legend than Rooney. But I see say CR7 fans don infiltrate the fanbase and want to rewrite history. That one no go slide for here