@drgurner@resetbasis True.
Something I think Christians need to wrestle with moreโฆ our place of employment (for better or worse) is likely the most effective discipleship any of us will ever engage with.
Gym locker room yesterday:
High School/College Kid: "How old are you man?"
Me: "47"
Kid: ๐ "Well done."
(Not the way I thought that conversation was going to go... Never ceases to amaze me, gym culture is the most positive place on the planet)
@lindsay__stamp My wife & 4 daughters sat me down after a solitude trip & basically had an intervention:
โWe miss fun dad. Your health sucks. Weโll pay our own bills if it means you can have peace.โ
Quit the next day.
New Substack out: The Couch
"Because almost every good father I know is closer to losing his kids than he thinks...
...hard-won observations from a guy whoโs owned seven companies, worked twenty-seven jobs across seventeen industries, & still somehow raised daughters who want to talk to their old man."
2 should be 1.
15 and 25 should be dropped entirely.
- replaced by: The Three Musketeers - Dumas & Robinson Crusoe - Defoe
21 deserves a higher spot.
My 12 year old did an AI mock up and proposal to me this morning to turn our side yard into a Motocross track for him and his friends. He checked the local ordinances for set backs and figured out the cost. LOL hard to say no, but no. Wild wild time to raise kids.
I was told today by #2 (recently back from earning her bachelorโs degree)โฆ
โIโm now a stay at home daughter!โ ๐
(So I sent her to Home Depotโฆ and mocked her next to the measuring stick. Iโd say the arrangement is working out nicely.)
@Brian_The_Stoic I distinctly remember the first time I saw GWH, thinking: โthis might be the best movie Iโve ever seen depict real male friendships โ.
@cjandshea Ditto - happy to give him the run down, pros and cons, if he wants to chat.
Also, @tyromper has another event in AZ this fall thatโs a bigger group if he wants to start with a little more anonymity! Me and my girls will be there!
I'll never understand the Elon hate outside of pure jealousy.......
I recently hosted an 18 person men's retreat.
Guys from all over the world off X met up in real life. It was awesome!
One man @rdsanchezjr the last night started tearing up about a brutal legal battle he endured during PEAK WOKE ERA.
He was wrongfully fired from a job he loved after 28 years of service with ZERO problems prior.
He didn't bend the knee, stood on his morals & principles & was fired for it.
He said,
"ELON MUSK gave me my life back."
Elon quietly paid for attorneys, helped him fight, & got him reinstated!!
No publicity.
No big thing.
Most billionaires are on yachts with models lecturing us about climate change.
Elon Musk fights fraud, corruption, saved free speech, does more for green energy than anyone, sends rockets into space & brings them back in one piece, is giving the world internet access, & somehow even helps the little guys in legal battles.
@ZubyMusic was at the retreat & messaged Elon a thank you with @rdsanchezjr & he even quickly responds back he's glad he could help.
Maybe, instead of everyone always whining about how the algo doesn't serve them or this or that.....
Just say thank you to the world's richest guy that constantly fights for humanity.
Thank you @elonmusk ๐โค๏ธ
Like it or not, most young people listen to other young people.
A new mother will often ask advice from a woman who is only a year or two ahead of her before she will seek out a mother who has already raised six or seven children. That is just how things often work.
Part of that is immaturity. Part of it is that people tend to trust those who feel closer to their own stage of life. But part of it is also that many young people have not found older mentors available to them, or at least that has not been their experience.
The why here isnโt really the point. The fact that this is a tendency is the point.
Pastors and older women need to understand that.
It is fine to challenge this tendency from time to time. Older saints should make themselves available and encourage younger people to seek wisdom from those with more experience.
But you cannot build a ministry strategy around wishing young people worked differently than they do.
Instead, look for the younger men and women who are willing to learn from older, wiser people. Invest in them. Teach them. Help them grow.
Then lead through them.
As they grow, they will naturally influence others their own age or just below them. They become trusted voices among their peers, but they are passing along wisdom that has been tested by time and experience.
And as a related sidenote, any ministry built on youthful coolness has a very short shelf life.
We all stop being cool in the eyes of the young at some point. When older people keep trying to posture as trendy, hip, and young, it just becomes sad and desperate.
Better to accept your stage of life. Iโm in full older dad to grandpa mode. Itโs great.
Act your age. Embrace the fact that you are in a different season. Stop trying to compete with youthfulness and instead offer what youth canโt: tested wisdom, perspective, and maturity.
Then lead through younger people who have learned from you.
That is a far healthier way to build something that lasts.