“One excruciating problem faced by single women is caused by the unwritten rule of our society that allows men the freedom actively to pursue a marriage partner while women are considered loose if they actively pursue a prospective husband.
No biblical rule says that a woman eager to be married should be passive. There is nothing that prohibits her from actively seeking a suitable mate. On numerous occasions, I’ve had the task of counseling single women who insist at the beginning of the interview that they have no desire to be married, but simply want to work out the dimensions of the celibacy they believe God has imposed upon them.
After a few questions and answers, the scenario usually repeats itself: the young woman begins to weep and blurts out, “But I really want to get married.” When I suggest that there are wise steps that she can take to find a husband, her eyes light up in astonishment as if I had just given her permission to do the forbidden. I have broken a taboo.
Those seeking a life partner need to do certain obvious things such as going where other single people congregate. They need to be involved in activities that will bring them in close communication with other single Christians.”
- RC Sproul
The research behind this is wild. A baby is born and doesn't breathe. The window to fix it is 60 seconds. Doctors call this window the Golden Minute. And the first rule on the protocol is don't rush, because rushing actively breaks the technique.
Roughly 1 in every 10 babies needs help breathing right after they're born. The American Heart Association and American Academy of Pediatrics worked out the exact sequence years ago, and it's the playbook used in hospitals around the world.
Step one is the simple part: dry the baby, keep them warm, tilt the head a little to open the airway, rub the back, flick the soles of the feet. About 10% of newborns just need that small nudge to start breathing on their own.
If 60 seconds go by and the baby still isn't breathing, or the heart is going slower than 100 beats a minute, you grab a bag and mask. The bag is a rubber bulb. You squeeze it, and air pushes through the mask into the baby's lungs. You can see this in the second clip. Around 5% of all newborns need it. If it's working, the baby's heart speeds up. About 30 seconds later, you check again. If the heart is still under 60 beats a minute, you start chest compressions. Only about 1 to 3 babies out of every 1,000 ever reach that stage.
The bag and mask has one weak point. It only works if the mask seals tight against the baby's face, with no gaps at the rim. If air escapes around the edges, none of it reaches the lungs. The whole effort is just for show. A 2014 study at Leiden University in the Netherlands had medical staff try the technique on a training dummy. Inexperienced people leaked 51% of the air on their first attempt. After two minutes of focused practice, that number dropped to 11%. The seal is the whole thing, and shaky hands wreck it.
The calm in that video is what lets the hands stay steady. A steady hand keeps the seal tight, while a shaky one breaks it. Cochrane is the body that writes the most authoritative medical reviews in this field. Their review on this calls getting the air in cleanly the single most important step in saving a non-breathing baby. A panicking person with a bad seal might as well not be in the room.
Training does the rest. The NIH cites a study from Zambia where they trained midwives and nurses in this exact protocol. Out of every 1,000 babies born, the number who died in their first week dropped from 11.5 to 6.8. About a 41% drop, just from people learning to follow the steps in the right order without freaking out.
Around 900,000 babies a year die from not starting to breathe at birth, per the WHO. Most of those deaths come down to two things: no trained person on hand, or someone trained who rushed. The slow walk in the video is the technique. Slow hands and a steady mask save more babies than any other thing on the checklist.
When exceptions are no longer exceptional there will be great differences. The EPC is relatively peaceful because they have baked an ethos of latitude into their standards; the PCA has not. Those who voted for "good faith subscription" 25 years ago probably envisioned that exceptions would be "safe, legal, and rare," not divisive, disputed, and common.
Twenty years ago, I asked my pastor why Paul was a tentmaker. While a wonderful expositor, he didn't have an answer.
But in this biblical theological note from @dougponder, we have a very good answer.
Paul's vocation was not accidental.
A 2nd-century pagan writer mocked Christians because they cared for the poor and adopted unwanted children.
It just goes to show how radical Christianity was in such a dark and unforgiving world. By shining their light, Christians quickly converted an entire empire.
Ironically, Rome/EO & the happy-clappy megachurch are two sides of the same coin. One uses incense, icons, vestments, and repetitive chant. The other uses lights, loud music, and polished production. Strip it all down, and they both run on the same juice: aesthetics and atmosphere used to generate a false sense of encounter with God, and galling eisegesis. One calls it mystery, the other a “move of the Spirit.” Either way, people are carried along by something carnal & external.
The one side kisses wooden pictures and bows down to statues; the other sways to technicolor lights & music. But both deploy pragmatism & both bank on the laity not knowing their Bibles when it comes to proper worship. Both appeal to the flesh. Both are centers of pomp, glitter, & idolatry. Two sides of the same coin.
The burden of proof for diverging from the Westminster Standards or the reformed tradition lies not with those who uphold them but rather those who depart from them.
"No one who lies keeps faith while lying — he certainly desires that the person he lies to should put faith in him, but when lying he does not keep faith — everyone who breaks faith is unjust." — Augustine of Hippo
Comments from Nabeel Qureshi back in 2016 remind us of one reason why there can never be communion between Christianity and Islam:
"Chapter nine of the Quran is the last major chapter of the Quran to have been composed, and it is the most expansively violent. This is the one that starts off by saying, 'This is a disavowal of all the treaties we have with polytheists.'
Chapter 9:5, 'Slay the infidels wherever you find them. Lay siege to them. Take them captive.'
Chapter 9:29, 'Fight the Jews and Christians until they pay you the poll tax and they feel subdued.'
Why? Chapter 9:33, 'Islam has been made to Prevail over every religion.'
So I mean, chapter nine is the most violent. It's the culmination of the Islamic message. It's the marching orders that Muhammad leaves Muslims with, which is why when he dies, Muslims conquer one-third of the known world within 150 years...
This has been the classical understanding of Islam up until the fall of the Ottoman Empire. No Muslim really ever had qualms with it. It's what it was, and this is the means through which Allah had given Muslims dominance around the world, and it wasn't until Muslims had to as a culture flip the script and start playing the defensive, the victim card, which they hadn't done before...and that's why you don't hear the phrase 'Islam is a religion of peace' until the 20th century.
It was never said. It was never thought. That wasn't the way Muslims had thought up until that time."
"Children's Church" is killing generational Christianity.
Just did a deep dive on this. Retention rates are 60-70% + with churches that practice integrated (everyone in main service) vs the 60-70% leave rate of those that have segregated "kids" church.
On day 1 of my high school history class, our professor got up and said
You are 15 or 16 years old. 200 years ago people your age were married, planted crops, had children, and built a cabin by winter. You can do your homework. The bar set for you historically is embarrassingly low. You are not dealing with regional famine or plague. You do not have to save your family from marauders or go into battle to destroy your enemies. You have to sit down and learn from someone who cares about you in a safe, air-conditioned room. You have no excuses.