Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Death and grief are so awful, I woke up to the news of Arsenal��s win and, somehow, I shed a tear. I am not even a football fan, but John would have loved this day so much. He longed for this win. He would have been loud, happy, and impossible to ignore.
I have a controversial opinion on colourism in Nigeria.
I think that is something we have equally imported from the West. Growing up, the people represented on TV were all dark-skinned
Meryl Streep says Stanley Tucci has “an elegance to his heterosexuality”:
“Stanley has an elegance to his heterosexuality, his undeniable heterosexuality, which is formidable. Not that heterosexuality is better than any other kind of sexuality, it's just that elegance - real, unforced, natural, unstyled elegance - is sometimes harder for straight men. I’m not looking at anybody here or intending any slight, but I'm just saying.”
Meryl Streep says Stanley Tucci has “an elegance to his heterosexuality”:
“Stanley has an elegance to his heterosexuality, his undeniable heterosexuality, which is formidable. Not that heterosexuality is better than any other kind of sexuality, it's just that elegance - real, unforced, natural, unstyled elegance - is sometimes harder for straight men. I’m not looking at anybody here or intending any slight, but I'm just saying.”
Elegance has been on the decline among straight men since the end of WW2. There used to be many elegant figures, such as Cary Grant, Gary Cooper, and Fred Astaire. In the postwar period, organizing masculine themes tend to be "cool" or "macho." Elegance is seen as effete and weak
No one wants to hear it but you will have to *work* on everything that is worth having in life.
Your career, your relationships, your health - whatever it is...
So if you don't want to work for it, be prepared to be very disappointed in the quality of everything you get.