I believe one of the reasons we love quickly but understand so slowly is because understanding necessitates solitude, introspection, and paying close attention to every aspect of a person. Understanding entails having a unique empathy for the other person and what they represent.
One of the most heartbreaking quotes Iโve ever read was "Sometimes, we donโt fall in love with the person themselves we fall in love with the idea of them. A version we painted so beautifully in our minds, shaped by our hopes and feelings, not by who they truly are.