I used to think people who consistently hit the gym were just incredibly disciplined.
Turns out, they don’t always feel like going either. They just show up anyway.
Yesterday, we lost a cherished member of our family.
We got Sunny at the start of our second term in the White House, and all of us – including our first dog, Bo – immediately fell in love. We also had trouble keeping up with her, for Sunny was a force of nature. Athletic and full of boundless energy, she leapt over the hedges on the South Lawn like they weren’t even there, chasing squirrels, birds and anything else that moved. And whereas the way to Bo’s heart usually involved a treat, Sunny was more interested in having us run around with her, roll on the floor with her, or have her belly rubbed for as long as we were willing.
She loved the girls, even if they were pestering her when she was napping. She loved our team, and would often follow them around, helping them on the job. She was fiercely protective of Bo, who she rightly sensed wasn’t always as alert and attentive as she was. She had her eccentricities: other than Bo, she preferred people to dogs; she was a loud and sloppy drinker; and despite being a Portuguese Water Dog, she hated getting wet.
But as far as our family was concerned, she was pretty much perfect, and for thirteen years, she would be by our side – always loyal, always sweet, always ready for adventure, still fiery and gorgeous till the very end of her days.
We will miss her terribly, and imagine she’s with her big brother now, making sure he’s okay.
Btw, it’s emotional intelligence to keep the terrible things people say about your friend to yourself. You don’t have to tell her everything. Sometimes you can hear something and know it will hurt her, and the kindest thing to do is simply keep it to yourself.
diabetes and cancer are brutal, but hiv/aids was unforgivin' before arvs
it wiped out families; villages got abandoned
there'd be at least 3-4 burials happenin' concurrently in the same village
don't ever joke about hiv, it's the ultimate weapon that can be forged against you
Andrew — this is low and unnecessary.
Why does it matter if he used Ai to structure his response to you. Clearly the ideas and thinking were his— engage with what he said or choose not to. But don’t try to discredit him but insinuating he is not a thinker. And do you really want to take a position in this day and age that any use of Ai does not deserve a response or be taken seriously? Do you live under a cave?
Mwenda, sit down. You do not get to lecture a kingdom about “who a king can sleep with” while dragging unnamed women through the mud as prostitutes and housemaids.
A woman who bears a king’s child is a mother. Full stop. Not a street statistic for you to use as a punchline while you play kingmaker from Kampala.
You said “this is not to suggest that Oyo did any of this” then why say it at all? You said it because you wanted the insult to land. You wanted people to picture the late king with a “prostitute” so you could disqualify a child you have never even seen. That is cheap. That is classist. That is misogynistic. And it is cowardly.
If succession has rules, state the rules. If there is a will, produce the will. If the mother must be known, demand her name and clan like an adult. Do not hide behind “prostitute on the street” to do the dirty work of a succession fight.
You have spent years talking about culture. Culture does not require you to spit on women to make a point. 😡
Leave the dead king. Leave the child’s mother. Argue the custom without turning women into slurs. 📌
We really should leave the Kingdom of Tooro to self-determine. The temptation to comment, ridicule, or contribute without invitation should be avoided.
To the photographer who took and published that photo of the Queen Mother crying: was that honestly the best angle you could get?
Yes, we are mourning, and grief is real. But journalism also demands ethics, dignity, professionalism and sensitivity.
We are talking about a Queen Mother. Document the moment, yes! but don’t strip a grieving person of her dignity for a powerful image. Not every frame needs to be published. Context and respect matter.
May you rest in peace, King Oyo. 🕊️
You said the only child you should expect or demand respect from is your own? The last person who said this died crying.
I’m talking about the The Rev. Ferdinand Atwine Ibabaza, formerly Grace Milton Tumwine, a former UTODA boss. He raised a son called Henry like a “king”. He used to pay every penny needed to bribe school administrators to allow Henry to stay at school with his dogs and a gear bike. This may sound like a joke, but ask people who studied at Bishop McAllister College, Kyogyera, an Anglican-founded, co-educational boarding school in Sheema District, Western Uganda, in the late 2000s. Ferdinand was a good friend of the headmaster, Rev. Canon Caleb Twinamatsiko. His son could do everything he wanted. 😂
The boy later turned into a drunkard and marijuana smoker and almost killed his father. He used to beat up his family members including his step mom, cousins, uncles and farm workers. He was unruly. Ferdinand died, and later the son also died. But guess what? He died drunk on the road at night and was announced by strangers.
Mind you, he was a cousin to Doreen Ainembabazi, Chief Magistrate of Nakawa.
This is exactly why I reject the idea that you only demand respect from your own child. Children grow into adults, and character does not magically appear at 18. Discipline, correction and accountability matter long before adulthood.
That aside:
1. Respect is not exclusively a parental transaction. A child should learn to respect other people too.
2. You don’t need to be someone’s parent to expect basic respect from them. That applies to children just as it does to adults.
3. “They’re not my child” is not a reason to tolerate disrespect. It simply means you may not have the same authority over them.
4. Respecting a child does not mean permitting disrespectful behaviour from them. Those are two completely different things.
5. Children are members of society, not private property. They must learn how to conduct themselves around people outside their homes.
6. Parents cannot be physically present everywhere their children go. Children therefore need values that travel with them.
7. A child who is taught that only their parents deserve respect may eventually believe everyone else is optional. That is a terrible social lesson.
8. Look at football. How many talented boys enter academies with extraordinary ability but fail to progress because talent alone cannot compensate for indiscipline, poor attitude and lack of professionalism? Football has countless examples. George Best is one of the clearest at the highest level: extraordinary talent, but serious disciplinary and off-field problems contributed to the premature decline of his Manchester United career. Mario Balotelli is another gifted player whose career was repeatedly complicated by disciplinary and attitude problems. Talent can open the door; discipline determines whether you stay in the room.
9. “memememe tezaala mwoojo”. When everything revolves around the child, their feelings, their entitlement and what they want, while accountability becomes somebody else’s problem. That is not confidence. It is poor character development.
10. They won’t remain children forever. The world will eventually hold them accountable for the character their upbringing produced.
Better to teach them discipline, boundaries and respect while they are still learning than let life teach them when the consequences are much harder.
11. Since you have made it clear that the only child you should expect or demand respect from is your own, are you saying that one of the reasons people fear marrying single parents is because of what they should expect from their stepchildren? Because, by that logic, if a woman has a child, a man who dates or marries her must simply tolerate disrespect from her child as part of the package.
I truly believe that to get anywhere in this life, we must learn to allow things be complicated. An oversimplified life is not worth living and it is important to be able to hold two truths or more at a time — To be hurt and be loved still, and to fear and to carry on despite.
I am still saying it, and this is coming from someone who finds physics fascinating: medicine is way beyond anything engineering will ever accomplish.
An aircraft is a mighty feat. We designed it. A space rocket? We designed it. Electromagnetic technology, bridges, computers, all of these are incredible feats, but ultimately things we designed and built from the ground up.
Now think about medicine. Humans are opening up a body they did not design, navigating structures they did not create, knowing what to cut, what not to touch, what connects to what, where something needs to go and what carries it there and then putting the whole thing back together.
That is, and will probably forever remain, mightier to me than anything we have ever achieved as engineers.